Conscious Creation - Reality Alchemy

Patches 1992-2011

2011-03-25T15:52:00.003-04:00

Dear Patches

Thank you for the joy and love you brought to my life. From the day I found you at the Humane Society, full of nippy spunk and energy, our loving connection grew. Your purrs that soothed, snuggles that warmed, licks of affection and growls of protection are going to be missed. So many fond memories and soulful, heartfelt moments.

While my eyes cry, my heart feels the joy and happiness you get to now experience at the Rainbow Bridge. I’ll be awhile, so enjoy yourself and your regained freedom. And feel free to come back in another form of cat or dog and we can pick up where we left off in sharing the Love.

Love you my dear feline friend. I’m more having experienced your Love.
Kim

Guilt's Gift

2011-01-21T12:37:00.001-05:00

Guilt and shame get such a bad rap. I do understand how it may not be everyone’s cup of tea, it doesn’t usually make us feel very good; it makes us feel small, shallow… like we want crawl under something and just disappear. Guilt and shame are awful feelings to have… however if they can serve a purpose are they really all that bad?

I use to hate guilt – I’d tell people I have no use for it! However in spite of my attempts to reject it – I kept feeling it. Its perseverance has helped me to recognize the gifts of guilt and shame.

Guilt has served me well over the years. It has helped me to be a better a friend, to myself and others. It’s helped me recognize when I wasn’t living my values or when I was doing something for the wrong reason. It has made me kinder, more patient and understanding. Guilt serves as a moral compass, pointing me towards how to be a better person when I forget… and we all forget every now and then. I’m very grateful to guilt, for being the kick in the butt I’ve needed when I’ve slacked off on my exercise routine, the inspiration I’ve needed to write a new blog post (like this one  ) and the empowerment I’ve needed when I’ve been tempted to give my power away to someone or something outside of myself.

Making friends with guilt is one of the best things I’ve ever done. Now when it creeps in – and oooh I know the feeling so well that I can usually sense when it’s been triggered even the slightest – when it creeps in, I pay attention. I ask myself: “What am I compromising in this moment? Which one of my values am I stepping on? What is my intention? What do I really want to do or say? What is most important to me?” Or if the feeling has come in “after – the – fact” then I’ll ask myself: “What was my intention at the time? Was that the best I could do in the moment, given what I knew then? Would I do it again? What would I do differently next time?”
Most importantly… I ask myself whether or not I need to apologize to someone and if so, I do. As a friend, guilt and shame can make you think before choosing and reflect after the fact to learn and grow from experience.

Guilt helps me take responsibility for myself, to be responsible of me and who I am choosing to be. By working with the feelings of guilt or shame when they come up, instead of trying to deny their existence or push them away, I give myself the opportunity of expressing the better version of myself in that moment.

Yes – guilt feels awful and can make you want to curl up and disappear – however if you let it, it will show you its gift and help you stand tall and shine. Your choice!

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2010-12-22T15:57:00.000-05:00

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Stop doing.....

2010-07-06T09:45:00.006-04:00

I just came across this great question while reading the description of Marshall Goldsmith’s book, “What Got You Here Won’t Get You There”.

“Instead of your usual “To-Do” list, start your “To-Stop” list. Ask yourself, “What am I willing to change right now?” “.

People hire me as their coach to discuss the changes they want to make in their lives. Included in these discussions are often the details of what they no longer want in their lives, such as what they no longer want to be doing. But then we usually go on to discuss what they will do instead… adding to their “to do” lists more and more things to do. I really like Goldsmith’s suggestion of a “to stop” list. To me this means meeting myself exactly where I am in the moment – doing something perhaps unproductive or unconstructive – and doing the very next smallest step… which is STOPPING! I love it! Adding to a “to do” list sometimes ends up contributing to the overwhelming amount of things we already have to do, where as a “to stop” list feels more like taking away from the list of things to do - it's a relief! It may seem like a simply enough reframe, however if it feels better, chances are you’re going to end up with better results.

Here is an invitation to work with Goldsmith’s suggestion, with a twist of Kim (I haven’t actually picked up the book yet so I’m making up the structure). At the end of the day, take some time to reflect. Was there anything that happened during the day that you really would have liked to have seen turn out differently? Perhaps during a conversation you found yourself reacting in a way that triggered a chain of emotional reactions, directing the conversation off topic or to an unwanted result. Or maybe there was a project that didn’t turn or as planned or wasn’t completed on time. Whatever the situation, ask yourself, “What specifically did I do that contributed to this outcome?” Take a few moments to reflect on the thinking pattern, behavior or action that contributed to the experience and acknowledge how you specifically participated in the resulting outcome. You may want use a journal for the process or simply spend time contemplating the experience. Next ask, “What will I ‘stop doing’ to help this result to not happen again”. Add this to your “to stop” list. Don’t worry about what you’re going to do instead, by stopping what you were doing, by default you’ll have to do something else – even if that something else is nothing. Since your intention is to not experience the previous result again, when you stop doing what you did that participated in its happening, chances are that you’ll naturally do something that will lead to the result you want!

Myself, I’ve been noticing lately that I’m not as productive as I’d like to be. I participate in being unproductive by letting myself get distracted by surfing the web; hopping from one social site to the next checking out posts, looking to see if someone commented on a post I made or if there is a new post I want to comment on, checking my email, Googling whatever just popped into my mind… anybody relate to what I’m saying? I’ve added “I will stop the distractive behavior of web surfing while working on a task” to my “to stop” list. This post is a result of that commitment – I just resisted the urge to click on my email when I heard its familiar “ping” a moment ago. However, I do have to admit – this post is a result of getting sidetracked from what I was originally doing… which I’ll be getting back to now :)

Let me know how it goes!

The Magic of Acceptance and Contest Judging

2010-05-18T08:55:00.006-04:00

“A little confused about this "Best Spiritual Book contest". I keep getting emails and FB posts from authors - some I know and some I don't - blatantly bribing me and everyone else on their lists, to vote for their book. Isn't this the kind of tactic many people scorn politicians for using.... and this is a "spiritual" book contest? Whoever the winner will be, the win will be a reflection of the votes they were able to solicit, not a reflection of the actual book. Am I missing something? I feel really judgmental about this.”

Over the weekend, I posted the above comment on my Facebook page, transparently admitting my confusion and judgment. A good friend who resonated with my observation encouraged me to not judge myself for the discernment I was expressing, which was a very kind comment. However what I noticed was that the moment I expressed my judgment, thereby acknowledging and accepting the feeling, any “self judgment” that had momentarily crept in, magically disappeared. Through my acceptance of it, I was immediately able to observe my feeling of judgment for what it was, a feeling, and I became more curious about how I felt. This curiosity lead me to check out was the contest’s website to learn more about it.

There, I discovered that my impression that the results of the contest would be a reflection of the votes a contestant was able to solicit actually was one of the intentions of the contest. The whole purpose of the first round in this contest was to teach contestants how to make themselves and their message more visible. This first round, had NOTHING to do with anything the authors may have written – the main intention of this round was to narrow down the contestants to the top 250 authors who could solicit the most votes.

On the site it states: “In this first round the authors rally the support of those they know and learn the art of promoting their message and book. This provides the author with a real life experience of publishing and promoting a book.” http://www.nexttopspiritualauthor.com/ By reading the website, I learnt that one of the main intentions of the contest was to help authors learn more about how to market themselves so that they can be more successful as authors. The more I read about the contest, the more I can appreciate what it is all about. James Twyman shares this about the competition on his personal website http://www.jamestwyman.com/: “The competition, which includes a people’s choice element, will help to establish a publishing path for an emerging spiritual author. Beyond that, all participants – winner or not – will be allowed to participate in an eight-month home study program that will provide them with the skills they need to become a successful author.”

So, all contestants are winning the 8 month home study program - I love it when everyone’s a winner!!

While I still stand by that I don’t care much for being excessively spammed and bribed by people I don’t know, I now understand that for many of the contestants who emailed me, doing so was an exercise to help them stretch out of their comfort zones and that I can support.

Even with the understanding of how the contest is designed, I was still curious about the judgment that got triggered by the numerous emails and posts I received. Another friend made a comment to my post, sharing that she was feeling out the energy of the emails/requests and discerning whether she felt the person was coming from a place of love and generosity or personal desire. When I tuned in, I felt that many were coming from both, and I didn’t really have a problem with either. It is normal for people to desire winning a contest; to desire having their message be heard and understandable to desire wanting that so much they are willing to give stuff away (bribe) in exchange for votes in the hopes of possibly winning a publishing contract especially when that is what they are being encouraged to do. As I acknowledged this new feeling that was now associated with the contest, I wondered how it was that the feeling of judgment got triggered first, and not the more generous energy that I can sense now?

As I continued to curiously sit with this inquiry, I realized that the idea of “bribing for votes” triggers a feeling of dishonesty. I’m immediately reminded of stories I’ve heard through the media where individuals used such tactics to gain votes that would win them positions of power, instead of qualifying for the position due to the true value they intend on bringing to the position. I’m noticing that whenever I witness the tactic of “bribing for a vote” being uses, the past energy of dishonesty is triggered and I immediately become suspicious of whoever is using it. The more my suspicious I become the more judgmental I become – and it that state, I’m not very open.

This is what responding from autopilot is like – which most of us do often, each and every day. We react to situations based on past experiences that get anchored into us. When something happens that is similar to a past experience, it triggers the associated anchored response, which is easy to go along with because it’s already been proven. When this happens with my coaching clients, after acknowledging and accepting how they feel, I ask questions to peek their curiosity, which often encourages them to seek out more information, leading to new understandings and perspectives to discern from. And this was exactly what I did for myself. By first acknowledging and accepting how I felt, not making myself wrong for it, I ignited my curious nature which then opened me up to see more of what is there to see.

As I realized I was reacting to a past association to a tactic that felt dishonest, I wondered how I would have responded to these emails if my first or prevalent association with “bribing for votes” was connected an experience that felt honest or generous. If my past association to the tactic was that I’d gained something of value in return for a vote and if all my vote did, was help someone be seen for the value they had to offer, how differently might I have responded to the numerous requests for votes I received? I imagine that if my overriding association to “bribing for votes” was from that perspective, I probably would have been inclined to vote for each person I resonated with. Or I may have simply been inclined to support them all for having the courage to step out of their comfort zones to support themselves in getting their message out.

As a result of putting my own judgment out there to be seen and heard, not only did I gain clarity about this particular contest – I also learnt more about what was at the core of the resistance I’ve been feeling towards other marketing strategies that I’ve had a hard time aligning with. I realize that most of my judgments of other marketing methods are based on negative associations. Not sure if I’ll be jumping on their band wagon anytime soon, however if there is something there for me, I’m now in a new perspective from which to discern my alignment to it from and it feels… open :)

To all of the contestants that made it to the second round – congratulations on your well earned success and the best of luck to you all.

Any Regrets?

2010-04-27T09:10:00.006-04:00

A friend on facebook, Michael Murphy, posted this question today "Is it possible to live without regret? Do you agree or disagree and why?" Here's my response which followed someone's who thought that YES it was possible, because we always have choice and we made the choice.

I agree, it is all about Choice! Regret can also be a choice. I think that if we've made a choice that we didn't align with 100%, that in time we may experience flutterings of regret. That isn't such a bad thing, it's what we DO with it that can potentially harm us.

A fluttering of regret can happen when we get a peek into a "what if" of an alternative past choice. Good news is that choice is always available to us. We can choose how long we stay in the energy that the "what if" brought up, how far we take it and what direction we take it in. Because we can choose our thoughts and perspectives, we can choose what we do with regret when it flutters in.

So is it possible to live without regret? Sure, I believe everything is possible. The question is, is it probable? For many people - no, and that doesn't have to be such a bad thing. Our natural ability to choose can deflate or inflate the impact of regret. We simply need to remember that we can choose, and that we can always choose again, and again and again....

What Is So Difficult About NO?

2010-01-26T15:01:00.007-05:00

Do you have a hard time saying no? I do.

Whenever my honey, a colleague, friend or even a stranger asks me something that I need or want to say no to, I find it emotionally challenging. I’ve been really curious about this lately – why it feels so awkward, and how lately, I’ve even felt resentment creep in for being put in the position of having to say No, as if the other person should know better than to ask – and YES I know how irrational that is!! I don’t usually have an issue with my decision initially; I know what I’m willing and able to do or accept at any given time, and what I’m not. However, when it comes to having say that little two letter word – N O – sometimes I buckle and kick myself later for not listening to myself – or it comes out all icky and not at all in a way I feel good about.

Whether or not you can relate personally to what I’m saying, I imagine that you at least know someone, or that you know someone who knows someone, who couldn’t say NO to save their own life. They can have a completely full agenda, and when asked to take on yet another project, instead of saying: "No, I’m full thank you!", “Yes” is the automatic response comes out of their mouth. Know anybody like that – intimately perhaps? Or maybe, you relate more to NO = rejection? Regardless of which side of the equation you are on, if NO equals’ rejection, you’ll either feel rejected or that you are rejecting – neither of which feels good.

So I figure, if it feels so hard to say NO, then I won’t. Instead, I’m going to say Yes – to everything!

What I realized is this; when I’m feeling awkward or even resentful with the NO, my focus is on exactly that – what I’m saying NO to and the two letter word itself. What I’m not focused on is what I’m saying YES to, by default. In reality, whenever we say NO to something, we are actually saying YES to something else. And likewise, when we say YES to something, we are saying NO to something else. What often feels hard for me is the amount of energy and focus I’ve been putting on the response of NO. If saying NO aligns with my own agenda or plans, honors my values, feels congruent and right for me, then the NO is actually a Yes to ME and what is important to ME.

My new game plan is this… to focus on what I am saying YES to, and then to respond from the perspective of YES.

I started writing this post a couple of days ago, and since then I’ve attracted a number of opportunities to use this new strategy. One decision has been whether or not to take on another board position. The helper in me was tempted to say yes, but then I realized that would be saying no to being as effective and efficient in my other commitments and that is not OK with me. I am saying YES to my personal standards, and YES to leaving the space open for someone who can do it well. That feels good.

Another example was being asked if I thought something was a good idea and a straight NO (because I didn’t think it was) would have been a quick response, however, that felt stiff and inflexible. Instead, I took then the time to recognize what the YES was to, and then I expressed myself from that perspective (which aligned with the bigger picture). It felt supportive and good to express myself in that way and the YES was well received.

I’m going to keep this up and if you are like me, and you find it hard to say NO, I invite you to challenge
yourself to find a way of responding to all requests made of you for the next week with a YES. And I’m not suggesting that you simply get wishy washy with your NOs, but to focus on what you are saying YES to, and then to craft your responses from that perspective first. Remember that the YES is often about your own agenda, goals, integrity, self care, personal balance, values, or the bigger picture of whatever the request is about. Saying yes to these feel good – saying NO to helping out… doesn’t always feel so good. So focus on what feels good.

If you take on this challenge, I’d love hear how you do with it. And please remember, while you are working with this challenge, if someone makes a request of you, and inside you authentically feel, 100%, that you need to respond with a clear and unmistakable NO – then please do so, knowing that that NO is really a loud YES to yourself!!!

Winter and Spring Workshops with The Ottawa Catholic School Board

2010-01-22T14:11:00.003-05:00

Hey - I'm offering a number of workshops through the Ottawa Catholic School Board for Continuing Education. Registration for the March dates ends soon - so if interested contact them right away.

Pattern Busting – Create the Patterns that Lead to a Life You Want

Learn how to recognize your unwanted or unhealthy patterns. Participants will identify the thoughts, belief and values that are running the patterns and which one(s) need to shift to create more desirable outcomes. You'll learn a number of Kim's Pattern Busting self coaching tools, which will open up your peripheral, enabling you to see all of the possibilities and options that are available to you in any moment! Learning this tool will empower you to create life enhancing patterns!
Winter and Spring Dates 2010
9:30 am - 2:00 pm
Saturday March 6, 2010 or Saturday May 8, 2010

The Value of Money & You

How you value and treat your finances is a direct reflection of how you value yourself! During this workshop you will identify what is most important to you - your personal values - as well as how you truly feel about money. You'll break through the limiting beliefs, behaviours, and attitudes that have been sabotaging your prosperity and strengthen your relationship to the value of you. Aligning your inner worth with your outer worth will naturally result in more prosperous and abundant living.
Winter and Spring Dates 2010
9:30 am - 2:00 pm
Saturday March 27, 2010 or Saturday April 17, 2010

Conscious Creation Group Coaching
Create a balanced and fulfilling life this year by working with a professionally certified Life Coach. Within the first few classes you will uncover your core values, set S.M.A.R.T. goals and create a plan of action aligned with your values. Then in the following weeks you'll receive the coaching you need to keep you accountable and true to yourself. With the help of your coach, you will break through any self-sabotaging unconscious patterns or limiting beliefs ensuring success in achieving your outcomes. Class is open for 10-12 participants - so enroll early!
Spring Dates 2010
7:00 pm- 9:30 pm
Wednesdays from April 21 – June 9, 2010

Please note the above workshops are being offered through the Ottawa Catholic School Board. Please visit their site at www.fallconnections.com for registration details or call 613-228-3338.

Year End Ritual and Emotional Intentions for 2010

2009-12-31T12:20:00.003-05:00

I really wanted to send this out earlier in the week, to give you all the time to complete the year end exercises prior to the end of 2009 – but I just wasn’t feeling it, it wasn’t flowing. So I decided to investigate what was happening cosmically that could be affecting my flow – and it then it made sense.

This year is ending with some pretty wild and conflicting energy. While the end of the year is usually a powerful time for setting intentions, this year being amplified by a full moon – an eclipsed blue moon at that – we also have the energies of two planetary retrogrades compromising our efforts; Mercury and Mars. Mercury’s retrograde influence messes up all means of communications, which includes the communication we send out (goals/intentions) as well what we receive – inspiration and messages. While Mars’ retrograde influence is stirring some our darker emotions such as repressed frustrations and anger – not a good mix for planning the New Year. However I do feel it is still a great time for releasing and clearing space – both the inner and outer. The effects of the blue moon and eclipse will still amplify our intentions; I just wouldn’t be putting too much energy into getting too specific about them yet. A few weeks will bring more clarity and you may be inspired into a whole new direction.

To really make the most of this energetic potpourri, this will be my ritual this year which I offer to you as well:

Sometime today , (or whatever day you are reading this) write out a list of all that you intend to release from 2009 and the other 10 years that made up this decade (to top it all off, we are also completing a decade ). It feels important at this time to be releasing it all; the good, the bad and the neutral – all we are grateful for and all we simply wish to leave behind. Write it all out. What patterns and beliefs have held on to you? Feel the appreciation you have for their contribution to your life and let them be. By releasing them all, you create space for the beliefs and patterns that will align with your intentions for 2010 to come in. In order to continue moving forward, co-creating a sustainable world, I feel it is important to continually be releasing for renewal, in order to maintain harmony with the earth.

Then, I invite you to safely burn these pages. Optimally, if you get a chance to do this today, then this evening go outside and burn them under the blue full moon. Allow the alchemic process of fire to transform the words on the paper.

Complete this ritual by setting three emotional intentions for 2010. Make sure they are personal expressions of how you want to be feeling in 2010, knowing that who you are will be reflected in the world around you. For example, you may intend freedom, joy and peace or influence, peace and enthusiasm or simply, joy, joy and more joy! With the two retrogrades going on, I’m not feeling inclined to get too specific yet in planning which activities will result in my intended emotions for 2010. Past experience has proven to me that by setting the emotional intentions, and projecting them into a future time space, that the events and experiences between now and then will naturally unfold and result in the intended feeling, so that is good enough for me. I don’t need to know “exactly how” right now, it will flow naturally.

Once you have your three emotional intentions, close your eyes and imagine yourself on December 31st, 2010, looking back on the year and feeling that way about the year. Imagine feeling that way throughout the year as well. Do this for a few minutes – possibly between the minutes of 11:58pm tonight and 12:02 am New Year’s Day. If that timing doesn’t work – anytime will be great!

Later on the in month of January, once I can harness the communicative energies of Mercury again, I’ll sit down with my wise counsel and get some more clear direction for the upcoming year.

The essence of this ritual for me is to intentional and gratefully release for renewal, knowing the wisdom of it all is a part of me and to set emotional intentions for the New Year.

And of course – to celebrate it all with some bubbly!!
Happy Happy Happy 2010

Attracting Miracles

2009-11-30T17:31:00.023-05:00

I love setting an intention, forgetting that I’ve done so and then being surprised as I experience the magic of how it manifests as a reality!

This is exactly what happened last week while on vacation in Sedona, Arizona. As Daniel and I were venturing out on a vortex trek to Bell Rock one morning he ask me; “What do you want to attract today?” I smiled and joyfully giggled “I want to attract miracles!” Then we continued our hike towards Bell Rock, enjoying the trail and forgetting all about this intention until we met up with the first of many miracles we’d attract that day.

For both of us, this was our first trip to this spiritually energy infused landscape, and while we knew there were a number of energy vortexes amid the massive red rocks, we were not yet intimately familiar with each by name. At one point of our journey towards Bell Rock, I had a strong feeling that we were heading in the wrong direction. Some of the signs were vague, letting us know we were on the “Bell Rock Path” however with no indication as to which direction the intended destination was in. It was a day of trusting ourselves to rely on the less obvious signs as appose to the more direct ones, which proved to be somewhat elusive. We noticed another path which also confirmed it as a “Bell Rock Path” and decide to take it. Soon it proved to be leading us closer to the two larger of the red rock masses in the area.

As we got close to the base of the first large rock, we still were not in agreement as to which it was. I thought the more rounded rock on the right was Bell Rock, and Daniel thought it was the closer one, which was later confirmed to be the Courthouse Butte, by a cyclist we met along the way – who would end up being my first miracle of the day.

At first glance I saw a man sitting on the ground, with his bike next to him taking a break from riding.

Then I noticed the glittering of metal and realized he possessed mechanical legs – not just one, but two. Immediately I was struck in awe of this man’s ability to ride a bike, however it was only after we continued on our journey toward Bell Rock that my eyes welled up as I realized that I had just experienced the miracle I had asked for. As a result of his life experience, this man had lost both of his natural legs and was living life, doing what he loved, with two artificial legs. We had encountered a walking, talking, cycling miracle!

The cyclist was also able to give us the time, which made us realize that we had yet to reach the base of Bell Rock even though we had been hiking for 2 hours and that it was time for lunch. Our options now were to skip lunch and continue the climb up Bell Rock or to return another day and make the climb. Since both of us had only eaten a very light breakfast, we opted to return another day. However that still left us with at least a 1.5 hour hike back to the car, so I asked for a more specific miracle next. I intended that we would meet someone to drive us back to our car otherwise we’d be eating lunch with dinner.

We walked to the parking lot at the base of Bell Rock to find someone to drive us to our car. (*Note – we had parked in a lot miles away from the base, not realizing there was one much closer, yet our experiences confirmed that this was no mistake due to our intention for the day!) There were a number of people around, however they were either just arriving at the site or had just come back to their car for a break. As we started our long trek back we met up with a group of people at the end of their hike. They were all members of a local hiking club, and while the ladies we approached were heading in the opposite direction of us, they assured us a couple of their friends were heading back to town and would be happy to drive us to our car. Within minutes we were getting into the back seat of a convertible BMW with two gentlemen who were delighted to have us be their good deed of the day! Very grateful for miracle #2!

Next we headed to the Airport for lunch, then to the Airport vortex site. There we met a couple who had been to these sites often and shared with us a known, but not easily found gem of a spot by Cathedral Rock. The key was to arrive there at the start of sunset to catch the beautiful reflection of the rock in a stream along the path. To get there, we had to know to cross over some logs at a certain place along the stream,

which I imagine many people would have missed. Our third miracle was meeting people to guide us to this breath enhancing view.

More miracles followed – and I’ll share them in another post.

As you set out on your journey called "today", intend what you want to attract, and when you ask for miracles, be prepared to be blessed in ways you never could have even imagined to ask for!

Persitent Messages!!

2009-09-15T14:28:00.007-04:00

Here is a blog I enjoy visiting on Tuesday’s, for the author’s Tarot Tuesday’s. Every Tuesday Sheri picks a card and then offers her interpretation of it. She then encourages you to reflect on the card and discern it’s meaning for you. Today her card was from Doreen Virtue’s Archangel Oracle cards.

A great reminder card for me today - in case I wasn't getting of all the other hints the universe has been providing me lately. Claircognizance is my “clair” (or as I prefer to call it, my expanded sense) and I've been second guessing it a lot over the past year. As a result, the universe has been providing me with an abundance of opportunities to second guess my inner knowing just so I can experience the "I knew it" feeling ... great validation! When we simply follow your inner knowing, we often have to "trust" it was the right insight in the moment, because we have no way to prove what would have happened if we hadn't followed it.

As a conscious creator, I've been getting caught up in acknowledging the directive of my inner knowing and then wondering if I should be challenging myself to focus on creating what I “want” in spite of what I “know”.

Can I?

My experience has been, sometimes yes and sometimes not - again I need to remember to lean back into the inner knowing and trust the continued directive I receive as to whether or not it is in the best interest of all involved to consciously focus on influencing the outcome. To lean into the inner knowing is to effect change by harnessing the "Inner Power" and not from forced energy (as in the book Power VS Force by David Hawkins).

As the Serenity Prayer encourages, may we all have: "The strength to change what we can, accept what we can't change and may we all have the wisdom to know the difference".

What - Me Stressed???

2009-08-13T10:53:00.003-04:00

Here is a note I wrote in response to Mary Allens Inner Peace Practice video - after you read please watch it!

Hi Mary - I just wanted to tell you how much I LOVE your new videos. Today's was exceptionally brilliant - and timely. Recently I've been informed by two different health care providers, that my stress level was affecting my thyroid and adrenals... and I didn't even realize I was experiencing stress. The first naturopath discovered this through a bio-feedback like technology (NES) and to be honest, I wasn't convinced of its accuracy because I didn't "get" that I was experiencing stress. Then yesterday, my new naturopath (my previous one moved to BC), having received the results of my blood work informed of the same thing!

I share this, because as you say in your video, much of society has been conditioned to accept stress as normal - and that is dangerous because in doing so we can also, by default, start accepted the results of stress as normal.... yickes!

Good news, right after I received the news yesterday from my naturopath I received an email from my neighbour inviting me for a salt water swim and hot tub soak at her health club. First temptation was to respond with my usual "I've got too much to do" but I didn't - instead I said "I'd love to and thank you so much for thinking of me." I definitely used the opportunity to start strengthening those "inner peace" and “self care” muscles.

Much love and appreciation for you!
Kim

Reality Alchemy #3 – Believe in Possibilities!

2009-04-09T22:12:00.002-04:00

On facebook today someone posted that “If you want to draw something into your life, decide what it is and then act as though you have it. Works for me.” Great advice!
As I continued to read, one poster asked “what about a person with a disability, in pain and low mobility?” Reading this I pictured someone sitting at home, wanting god knows what, trying to “act as it” and wondering why it isn’t working for them.

I hear comments like this all the time from people who are experiencing a condition that the person declaring success isn’t, and how they really want to believe – yet it truly isn’t working for them. Does this mean this poster is wrong? No, they are absolutely right, it really can work for everyone, however there is a missing necessity here that will affect whether or not it works for someone, and simply put, that is the belief that it can.

Here is what I added to the thread:
“Often times the first obstacle is our thoughts about what we think or believe is possible due to circumstances - such as yours. First step then is to open to the possibility that anything is possible, even though you can't see how in the moment. Start where you are, feel how it feels to be open to possibilities, and then once you feel yourself believing that, it is easier to focus on attracting what it is that you want. Unfortunately, if you don’t think it is possible, chances are you’ll prove yourself right. Remember how the light bulb and airplanes were once just some wild idea? Two perfect examples of the power of belief in possibilities.”

I also want to add, that if someone is asking for some pie in the sky wish, that if the opportunity came to actually get it, chances are that they wouldn’t even know what to do with it – you have got to let those go! Make sure your wants are what you really want and what you are committed to taking action to get. If you are sitting at home saying “I wish I could travel to the moon” – then you better be prepared to do what it takes to make that possible. Or if you were wishing you were someplace warm and sunny and you can’t afford a trip – you better be at least willing to enter contests where travel is the prize. There are a gazillion ways that our desired outcomes can manifest – the key is to not be attached to how it happens, just believe that it can (consciously and unconsciously). Also, to be open and ready to act on the opportunities that will lead to your desired outcome when they present themselves. If you aren’t ready to act, if you are just sitting there wanting someone to knock on your door and give you a free trip without you having done a thing or followed any of the leads the universe sends... then you better believe with every fiber of your being, consciously and unconsciously that it is possible, otherwise you are deluding yourself. But if you do believe….it just might happen - because EVERYTHING is possible!

The Guy in the Glass

2009-03-25T15:18:00.002-04:00

I was at a seminar last night with Ron White - The Memory Guy and he recited this poem by memory. That was not the most amazing feat he demonstrated - however the poem itself really resonated with me in respect to the work I do with my clients. I see my work as helping people connect with the "guy/gal in the glass" so that more of their life experience ends up being fulfilling!
Enjoy the read - and may it inspire you to make friends with that face that you see in the mirror!

The Guy in the Glass
by Dale Wimbrow, (c) 1934

When you get what you want in your struggle for pelf,
And the world makes you King for a day,
Then go to the mirror and look at yourself,
And see what that guy has to say.

For it isn't your Father, or Mother, or Wife,
Who judgement upon you must pass.
The feller whose verdict counts most in your life
Is the guy staring back from the glass.

He's the feller to please, never mind all the rest,
For he's with you clear up to the end,
And you've passed your most dangerous, difficult test
If the guy in the glass is your friend.

You may be like Jack Horner and "chisel" a plum,
And think you're a wonderful guy,
But the man in the glass says you're only a bum
If you can't look him straight in the eye.

You can fool the whole world down the pathway of years,
And get pats on the back as you pass,
But your final reward will be heartaches and tears
If you've cheated the guy in the glass.
In grateful memory of our father, the author, Dale Wimbrow 1895-1954

Is There A Drainer In Your Life?

2009-03-06T13:44:00.005-05:00

Are there people in your life that leave you feeling drained? You know the people I mean – regardless of how they start out, your conversations with them end up focused problems, what is wrong, complaints and negative rants. In spite of your attempts to steer the conversation to a lighter side, this just fuels their need to take a stand for their perspective with an almost admirable energy of conviction.

In most cases these people aren’t doing this to be mean or to bring you down. It is just the way they think.

In NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) we learn about people’s Meta Programs which in short, help us to understand our various thinking patterns. Some people will have a tendency to notice what is right, working well, the good and will expand their conversations to reinforce these views. While others who naturally have the tendency to notice what is wrong, needs fixing and the bad will expand on such in their conversations.

Neither pattern is the “better way” of thinking, they each serve their purpose. Seeing what is right can lead us to feeling resourceful and good inside and as a result, more open to options and opportunities. Noticing what is wrong or needs fixing can leave one feeling needed and inspired to help make something better.

However like anything, when either focus is taken to an extreme both can lead to undesirable effects. For example, someone who insists on only ever seeing the positive, regardless of the circumstance may experience delusions and be in denial about some life situations that they really need to pay attention to. While someone who always sees the negative or notices what is wrong may experience less optimal moods on a regular basis and may become lethargic or depressed. You can avoid these extreme by remaining aware of how your thinking is making you feel – inspired, needed, curious, wanting to take action or down, depressed, isolated or delusional.

As a conscious creator, we know that ever what we focus on we will experience more of. Ideally you want to be able to see “all” of a situation, the good and bad, what is working well and what requires adjusting. From there the key is to maintain your focus on your desired outcome; to identify what the next step towards your desired outcome is and take it. Then the next step and next… continuing to acknowledge “all” of where you are NOW, to best discern what that next step will be. It is ok to see the negative, what makes the difference is what you do with this view. Do you expand on it, or does it inspire you into making a difference and taking action?

In respect to the people in your life, who are constantly draining your energy with their pessimistic views and negative conversations, remember that this is simply a thought and response pattern, in the moment being experienced at an extreme. It isn’t personal. There will always be events that will trigger us to lean more towards either end of the spectrum, bringing about more positive or less positive attitudes. However if you know someone who is constantly leaning over to the negative and find it draining, perhaps to the point of feeling toxic, here are a few tips that will help you to limit your time in this energy:

· After listening for a few moments change the subject. Start by looking for something you can genuinely compliment them on. Ideally the sincere flattery will shift their energy and focus, and then you can redirect the conversation in that lighter energy.

· Make it a constructive conversation by asking them what they would do differently. Challenge them into thinking of the opportunity being presented instead of just complaining and ranting about it.

· Acknowledge that they seem to be on a rant, ask them how much time they need to do so, (5-10min max.) and then agree to shift to a more uplifting conversation at that time - which may include what to do about it. Sometime people just need permission to clear. Give it a deadline.

· Take yourself out of the conversation. In a social environment, excuse yourself, look for people who are smiling and join them with your smile. Make sure to refrain from sharing what you just experience with the other person – leave that experience behind you. When on the phone, simply state you need to go now – no excuse necessary. If you are in a situation that you can’t escape then keep reading…

· Call them on it. Many people who have this tendency really like to think of themselves as positive people (and they usually are) and don’t even realize what they are doing. Offer that you notice they keep focusing on the negative – and get curious with them about it. There may be something going on underneath that they really need to talk about - especially if this is not their usual pattern of conversation. You could be attracting this part of them, as an opportunity to help them.

· Express your boundaries. If a friend, colleague or family member constantly brings up a topic that you do not want to discuss, tell them so and request that they not discuss this topic with you. I once had a neighbor who spoke about people from other cultures as well as people who are gay in a derogatory manner. For awhile I over looked these comments from this 70ish years of age gentleman, whom I realized grew up in a very different time than I. By overlooking, I realized I was indirectly encouraging the comments that I truly found offensive. One day I kindly, yet clearly, let him know that I neither appreciated nor condoned such comments, and respectfully requested that refrain from expressing them to me. He stopped. The added bonus was that I felt he demonstrated a greater respect for me as a result of that conversation.

· Remind yourself that this is just ONE part of their personality that you are attracting from them in the moment and start focusing on the parts of them you enjoy. This is one of my favorites, and a habit I find effectively rewarding. Believing that someone is more than they are demonstrating in any given moment is a powerfully attractive attitude; one that magically inspires the person at the receiving end of focus to embody.

© All Right Reserved 2009 Kim Barnwell - http://www.conscious-creation.com/

Choices – Realizing what you are really saying Yes and No to?

2009-01-28T15:45:00.003-05:00

Consider that every choice you make has an effect. Every time you say yes to something/one, you are saying no to something/one else. What you say yes to effects that which you say yes and no to and what your say no to affects that which you say no and yes to.

This little insight – or reminder – came today as I found myself having to say no to my honey, which is particularly challenging for me as he does SOOOO much for me that I truly appreciate. (Kisses Honey).

I'll give you some context and illustrate this point at the same time.

Here in Ottawa we are experiencing a bus strike. The unionized workers of our public transportation provider were not pleased with some of the conditions that were being proposed in their renewing contract. As a result of the changes the city wanted to make, they were saying yes and no to certain needs of their employees and their working conditions (I won’t go into those details). As a result, the union and employees said yes to fighting for the conditions they want to keep and no to the ones being suggested by the city. As a result of that, they said yes to a strike and no to providing public transportation to approximately 1 million people. This 1 million people includes their own neighbors, friends and family, therefore I can only imagine that this decision wasn’t made in haste. (BTW, I am not writing this to judge – my intention is to use this example to share a message).

As a result of the strike, thousands of people have had to change how they work and commute about the city. My partner, who regularly travels to work downtown by bus, has chosen to work from home most days, saying no to contributing to and driving in high traffic volumes and saying yes to being flexible, saving on gas, parking fees, time and so forth. Since I work from home as well, his saying yes to working from home has an impact on me. While this means saying yes to more frequent kisses throughout the day it also means saying yes to more distractions and no to productivity to some degree. Obviously the kisses aren’t an issue, however there are a number of other areas we’ve both said yes and no to in order to be flexible and accommodate each others needs during this time.

During the first couple of weeks, this was easy enough to do, however “easy” became “challenging” as the effects of the some of the YESES and NO’S continued to negatively affect my sense of productivity throughout each day. While it is very important to me to be flexible for my partner, I had to address what I was really saying yes and no to by doing so. I realized that by saying yes to being accommodating, in some cases I was saying no to having my needs for being productive met. It was time to start making some different choices in hopes that my Honey would understand and work with me (which of course he does!)

Bottom line, when we say yes or no to any one thing, by default or conscious choice we are saying yes and no to something as well. When we have a challenging time reconciling with our decisions or they become tough to follow through on, we need to take some time to acknowledge all that we've said yes and no to by making this choice – and then adjust accordingly.

Attitude Lifter!

2009-01-20T09:39:00.002-05:00

I loved this movie! Best 15 minutes of my day!

Validation

Celebrating and Completing 2008

2008-12-24T13:17:00.003-05:00

Happy Holidays Everyone!!

Since some of you have contacted me requesting my “Year Closing Exercise” I thought I’d post it on my blog again, as a holiday gift from my heart to yours! I have tweaked it a bit as I do every year, and have just added a brand new powerful emotional/forgiveness clearing exercise. It came through me as I was contemplating how I might come to peace with respect to a personal friendship that ended this year. As I completed it myself, I was in awe of the powerful emotional healing I experienced.

This is a two part exercise. First we acknowledge and celebrate ALL that you’ve accomplished in 2008. Take the time to acknowledging yourself, your efforts, your contribution, your successes and wins and even the perceived failures as there were gems to be gleaned from them too which makes them a success! Hopefully you’ve been expressing self gratitude all year round – and if not, this is the time to really let yourself have it!! Celebrate!!

In part two, you get to clean up any unfinished business – whether that is on a physical or emotional level. I love what Caroline Myss advices on wounded stories – tell it three times and then move on! I see the end of the year as a good time to consciously move on; to release any disempowering stories and the emotions connected to them that affect your energy so as not to drag them into the New Year. Sometimes letting go of the story and feelings IS as simple as deciding to do so, while other times it isn’t as simple as that. When it isn’t that easy, there is often more to learn from the experience, for our own personal growth and for that reason I have included some exercises that help facilitate the release of as much as possible now.

Ideally, you complete the exercises prior to the year’s end, consciously entering the New Year full of gratitude and ready to focus on what you want to consciously create in 2009.

In summary, part one is about reviewing and celebrating the year. This is an opportunity to recall and possibly gain further awareness or insights from the events of 2008. Part two is about releasing, forgiving and expressing gratitude for all of the events that made up 2008.
The exercise may take you from one hour to as much time as you need to complete.
So go get your 2008 journal, diary, day timer, agenda and anything else that will help jog your memory of the past year as well as a pen and paper. Get nice and comfy, creating a sacred environment for yourself - light some candles, burn some incense and have some tea, wine or favorite beverage.

Part One
The Year’s Review

Review the events of the year and take some time now to gain whatever more you can from the experiences. We all know the value of hind sight – time and distance provide a new perspective from which we can glean more insights from the more challenging and memorable events of our life.
Starting with January of 2008 ask yourself the following questions and work your way forward to now:

What were the key events of 2008
What did you learn as a result of these experiences? What else?
Who was involved in your life this year and in what capacities? What part of you did they reflect? What part of you, reflected in them, did you accept or reject?
What and who assisted in your growth this year?
What obstacles have you overcome?
What goals did you accomplish?
How did you contribute your ‘self’ and talents this year? To whom?
How were other people impacted by your contribution to their lives over the past year? (Be generous here!!)
What goals did you set and did not yet accomplish? Are you complete with this goal? Is it time to let it go or recommit with same alterations perhaps?
Did you stretch beyond your perceived abilities - meaning do things you didn't think you could or would have done in prior years.
How are “you” different from who “you” were in January of 2008

Cleaning up 2008

If you find yourself having any unpleasant emotional responses in respect to any of the events of the past year, here are some methods to use that will serve to guide you towards the core of these emotions helping you release them. No need to do them all and doing a combination may be valuable. The variety is offered to honor that one method does not necessarily fit all!

1. Ask yourself: What is still triggering me? What more can I learn from this event that I simply haven’t recognized yet? Take a step back and look at the experience objectively, as if it happened to someone else. See yourself in the situation, as if you are looking at a movie. From this position, what do you notice that is new, different? What else can you now learn from this perspective that wasn’t as clear before? It may help to discuss the situation with someone who wasn’t involved.

2. Close your eyes, center yourself, take a few deep breaths… that’s right… right from the diaphragm. Picture the person that you still have an emotion towards in your minds eye, or think of them and feel their vibration. Ask them “What other message(s) do you have to offer me?” Listen. Then go within and ask if there is a message you have for them. Listen. If it feels appropriate to communicate a message directly to the other person, do your best to do so prior to the years end; by voice, in-person or by writing. If it does not feel appropriate to do so, write it down and then tear it up or burn it.If you did get a message for them, ask yourself how this message could possibly assist you as well. (often the advice we get for others applies to us as well ;) )

3. Close your eyes, center yourself, take a few deep breaths… that’s right…right from the diaphragm. Go over the experience in your mind. Notice the emotions that are arising within you. Are you being reminded of any other past event? If yes, what are the similarities? Can you recall any events just prior to the one you are exploring? What you are doing here is making a connection to how you attracted the experience to yourself in the first place and you may possibly recognize a pattern that you may be attracting. What you learn from the experience now, may assist you in not repeating the pattern again.

4. Write it out. Write out the experience and your emotions. While writing ask yourself questions to lead you to more understanding, such as; What does this emotion tell me about how I really felt? If I knew of another experience that had the same feeling connected with it, what might it be? How would I have interpreted this event without this feeling? What were the facts? What am I making the facts mean? What else could they mean? Is the feeling connected to the facts or what I made the facts mean? What happens emotionally when I change the meaning of the facts? Continue with any questions to come to you until you feel complete.

This final exercise is powerfully effective in connecting with any remaining emotions such as hurt, regret, disappointment, betrayal or even anger that you may still be feeling towards a person. Over the past year many of us had some more challenging experiences that contributed to our growth, however may have included painful circumstances in order to facilitate our evolutionary journey. These included experiences that may have felt like you’d been betrayed, abandoned, lied to, deceived or just left you confused. If when you think of the person(s) involved and are still feeling like authentic forgiveness is a big leap, then this final exercise may provide the deeper insights and lesson to free your self, allowing forgiveness to heal and release. I do feel a responsibility to add a word of caution before completing this one:

Do not complete this exercise if you are healing emotions from sexual abuse, physical abuse or rape. This exercise is not ideal for extremely strong emotions that a person may have from more traumatic experiences, where they may have been harmed physically or deeply psychologically. If you have had such an experience and are looking to release the emotions associated with such traumatic events, please speak to your psychologist or a licensed therapist.

Reflection Exercise

For this exercise you’ll need a mirror and a candle. You can either stand or sit in front of one, ensuring you’ll be in a comfortable position to complete the exercise.
Light the candle, positioning it within easy view, while consciously connecting to your higher self, god self, greater self – that part of you that is loving and wise beyond reason.
Once you feel this connection, look into the mirror and think about the person whom you still are not feeling at peace with, that you want and are ready to let go of.

Thinking of this person, while looking into your own eyes, imagine that you are looking into their eyes. Notice how you feel as you think of this person and see them in your reflection.
Whatever emotion you are feeling towards them, you are also feeling towards a part of you.
Ask: “ What part of me is this feeling about?” Listen for the answer. If the answer feels incomplete, simply take a deep breath in and out, remaining focused on seeing their face and eyes as you are looking at yours, connected to your greater self and either repeat the question or request “Tell me more.”
When you feel you’ve connected to the deeper insight or lesson, ask: “How do I let this feeling go? What is required of me?”
Wait for the answer.

Remember all choices are yours. Follow the guidance of your greater self. If for any reason you do not feel able to fulfill it’s (your) request, continue the conversation by stating so and ask how else…. Continue conversing with your greater self, while maintaining eye contact in the mirror and imagining it is the other person whose eyes you are gazing into.

Ask; “Is there anything else I need, in order to be at peace with …. (name of person) and the part of me they represent?”
Listen.
Continue asking your greater self questions until you experience looking at into your eyes, imagining them looking back at you, and feeling either at peace, love, forgiveness, or neutral.
Once this feeling is present, thank them for the gift of serving you this way – providing you can do so authentically – or simply say thank you.
Look away from the mirror.
Blow out the candle with a feeling of gratitude for you connection to your greater self.
Exercise is complete.

If you need to do this exercise for more that one relationship, then I recommend when you are complete each one fully as mentioned above. Get up and have a drink of water and then return to the spot and start again with the lighting of the candle. This is to ensure the connection to the prior person has been completed so that the next will have your complete energy and attention.
If none of these exercises work for some of the experiences, that is fine. It may not be the right time for you to be complete with the experience. Accept that you have done the best you can for now and trust that when the time is right, resolution will happen in the best way possible.

Part two

Once you have reviewed the year, acknowledge in writing all that you are grateful for, and all you are ready to release and/or forgive. Be sure to include your accomplishments, goals achieved, growth stretches, and obstacles overcome.

Release and Forgive

In respect to all the events and people involved, complete the following sentences:

I bless and release my experience of these events........ (list the various events)

I bless and forgive and release .......(name of person) Thank you for your active participation in my life.

Also take this time to release any outdated beliefs or attitudes that no longer serve you.I bless and release my past need to……. (name belief or attitude you are releasing) I am grateful that it has served me in the past and brought me to this point in my life.

Celebrate with Gratitude

I believe we are all aware of the power of gratitude! Focus on your heart center, allowing it to fill with love and appreciation as you complete the following sentences:

I am grateful for........ (brief summary of event)I am grateful for……. (name of person and briefly why).
I am grateful to have had ……. (name the impact of your contribution)…. impact on….. (person, people or system you impacted).

Once complete, if you are able to safely do so, burn these papers with the intention that doing so symbolizes the rejuvenating transformation that fire brings, promoting new growth! If you are unable to do so safely, you can shred them by hand feeling the release and gratitude as you do so.

YEAH!!!! You have just created a vibrant, clear space within yourself having released the energy of 2008, creating space which can now be filled with your dreams and aspirations for 2009! The energy of gratitude that you allow to trail behind you, will naturally draw more for you to be grateful for in 2009.

Take some time early in the New Year to articulate what you want in your life, for your life and how you want to show up in 2009. What do you want to accomplish, contribute and how do you want to grow? Celebrate bringing in the year by create a fun collage that reflects your aspirations for 2009.

From my heart to yours - thank you for having contributed to my life in 2008 and I wish you all the best as you consciously create 2009. Happy Holidays!

Trying to Figure It All Out?

2008-12-05T13:47:00.001-05:00

Do you too hard to “figure” it all out??

Now that you are aware of the power within you, to consciously create your life, do you find yourself sometimes dissecting the events of your day, trying to figure out what “YOU” did to get what you got? The other day my partner came home looking exhausted. He shared his day with me, which was packed full of challenging situations. After reliving them with me, one after the other, he asks, in a breath of defeat: “how did I attract this today”? On top of having a crappy day, he was getting down on himself for having attracted the crap – like that helps at all! (Read last line with sarcastic tone!)

One of the pitfalls of becoming aware of the law of attraction and the other universal principles, is that while they helps us to acknowledge “how it all works”, we can often get caught up in trying to figure it all out. As we are trying to figure “it” out , we remain in the energy of “it” and if “it” is a crappy day, then we risk attracting more crap. It doesn’t matter how you attracted the challenges of the day – what matters is that you are aware of it and that you acknowledge that you have the power to re-create your day right NOW! You don’t always need to know how you got “here”, you do need to acknowledge that from “here” you have the power within to redirect yourself to where you want to be, regardless of what is behind you.

The bottom line is that trying to figure it out, is the long route to conscious creation. Sometimes it’s necessary, yet often it’s not. Here is the short cut. Decide NOW, right NOW what you want, then knowing where you are NOW identifying the next step forward and do it! Getting sucked into constantly trying to figure out the past, no matter how recent will just bring you more of it (not always, but often) to you. You know how it works; focus your attention on what you want in any moment, then listen to your inner guidance for direction. It may come from within you or from around you – trust that when you ask and intend your next step will come.

Create a vibrant day!

Reality Alchemy #2 - Understanding Cause and Effect

2008-09-05T10:07:00.003-04:00

What Came First, The Chicken or the Egg???

You know what it’s like to get caught up in an emotional downward spiral. One moment you’re feeling absolutely fabulous and suddenly you’re aware that you’ve somehow spun into a negative funk. You realize you’ve become angry, irritated or self deprecating; thinking thoughts that are perpetuating the mood. How did you get there so fast?

Some experts would suggest that a thought, triggered by an external event resulted in an emotion and it spiraled from there. While others would suggest an emotion, triggered by an external event, then triggered thoughts aligned with the emotion. It’s a matter of cause and effect, but what’s the first cause? Kind of like trying to figure out which came first, the chicken or the egg (figured that one out yet?)

Consider that:

Before a thought is a cause, it’s been an effect… every thought causes an effect.
Before an emotions is a cause, it’s been an effect… every emotion causes an effect.

Both emotions and thought are the cause and the effect and until we determine “original cause” in the world of chaos (good luck! :) ) we need to realize this.

As we respond to events, moment by moment, trying to figure out whether a feeling came before a thought or visa versa… well that takes a sort of mental discipline that most of us don’t yet possess. A more effective approach to start with is; the moment you start noticing how a thought is causing an emotion and how the emotion is causing the next though – you can intercede. Shift the current flow of cause and effect of your current stream of thoughts and emotions by choosing either a thought or an emotion that will start altering your current course.

For example – I’m upset at my boyfriend for not noticing, the moment he came home from work, that I’ve cleaned the floor and washed the car. I feel hurt that he hasn’t noticed and start thinking that he doesn’t care. Then I feel sad and start wondering “what does he expects of me?… is this not enough earn his appreciation?” Now I’m feeling angry, I worked so hard all day and got a bunch of chores done…I think you get the point.
The moment I become aware of how my thoughts and emotions are sending me down the stream into an emotional and mental frenzy, I stop… I take a deep breathe and choose a new thought. I choose to remember all the times he has expressed gratitude for something
I’ve done; like the last time I did our laundry. Immediately the emotion shifts to a feeling of calm. Then I become curious as to how his day was so I ask. He shares the many challenges of his day. Now I’m feeling compassion for him. I start wondering about what I can do to help him release the stress of the day. Next thing you know, he looks around, takes a whiff and says “mmmm…. it smells so clean in here, did you wash the floor?” “Thanks honey….”

To summarize, here are the steps to getting back into a more desirable stream of cause and effect:

1. Awareness – notice how your thoughts and feelings are flowing in the moment
2. Accept that you are the one participating in this current flow and you are the one who can change it. Take a deep breath in.
3. Alter your course by choosing a thought or feeling that you know will cause a more desirable emotion or thought.
4. Awareness – notice how your thoughts and feelings are flowing now

So what came first, the chicken or the egg? It you figure that one out, please let me know!

Reality Alchemy #1 – Attitude Lifters

2008-08-20T11:11:00.003-04:00

Our attitudes have a direct effect on how we experience our reality. Whether you see the cup as half empty or half full doesn’t really matter. What does matter is what you make that mean; does “half empty” mean there’s plenty of room for more, or that you’re almost out of water. Does “half full” remind you that your cup isn’t full, or that you still have lots of water left? It’s the meaning we give the facts of our lives that creates our reality and it’s our attitude that triggers the meaning we end up assigning these facts. If you want to alchemize your reality, change the meaning you’re giving it by altering your attitude!

Next time you want to alchemize your reality, use one of these attitude lifters!

Attitude Lifters

1. This too shall pass. Whatever is going on now, will soon be in the past. At some point in time it will be done with and resolved in some way, shape or form.

2. Shift your focus. There is much more going on in this moment that you could be focusing on. Look around you; what can you focus on that will result in a better feeling? The sky, a flower, animals playing, a picture or thought of a loved one or an inspiring quote.

3. If you are in an argument and the other person is showing you a part of them that you don’t like, remember that is only one part of them. They have many other parts to them that you probably not only love, but admire. If you’re dealing with a stranger, then envision them in a tender moment, as a child or receiving a gift. We are all multi-facetted and have many moments – good and bad. The more you focus on the good in a person, the more you’ll experience that part of them.

4. It’s not about you. How a person is responding to you usually has to do with them and how they are interpreting the situation. It is rarely personal. Remember that and it will help you disassociation from “their stuff”.

5. It’s all about you. How you are responding is usually about you and how you are interpreting the situation. Open yourself up to seeing other perspectives and possibilities. Ask clarifying questions, you may be “off the mark” with your current perspective! Be responsible for the perspective you choose.

6. Stick to the “facts” and drop the story. Adding meaning to events and situations that make you feel bad is a choice, one you don’t have to make! Stick to the facts! If you insist on fabricating a story out of it, make it an inspiring one!

7. A great reality checker in any situation is to ask your self, “Will this matter 10 or 15 years from now?” When the answer is no, notice how the emotions calm a bit. If the answer happens to be yes, than ask your self “What can I do about it now?”

8. SMILE! Every chance you get, SMILE. Make sure to smile in a mirror at least 5 times a day to experience the impact of your smile. Smiles are built-in manual “attitude lifters” that don’t cost a thing – and on the receiving end are priceless!

Our attitude also affects our health and impact the quality of our lives! Follow this link and read this article on the correlation between “attitude” and “longevity”.

Weight Loss

2008-08-12T17:47:00.002-04:00

The Law of Attraction Way V.S. Consciously Creating a Healthy Body

I recently interviewed two Law of Attraction authors for the CTI Law of Attraction Community. It was a different sort of interview for me, because it was scripted. As the interviewer this meant I was asking questions I would not necessarily have asked and I felt that asking questions outside the script would be a “faux pas”. Awesome learning experience and for the most part is was a great interview, both authors being very personable and fun interviewees.

There were some topics that I definitely could have gotten into a debate with them about, which is why I wished the interview hadn’t been scripted. One such topic was their response on how to use Law of Attraction principles to lose weight. I thought this was a great question, however I sooo didn’t agree with their answer!

The authors stressed how important it is to change your thinking to lose weight, which I agree with 100%; however… they suggest that is all you need to do! That diets and exercise are not required to lose weight; you simply have to change your thoughts.
Personally, I think such a statement is equivalent to performing malpractice. They run a high risk of influencing people into the delusion of thinking they can simply think their way thin. And if anyone has done this, having maintained the same eating patterns, diet, not changed their exercise routine or taken medication to stimulate weight loss – I want to hear from you!

You will be much more successful in losing weight by changing your thoughts about both yourself and food - absolutely - and by also changing eating patterns and adding exercise to your routine.

You need it all!

And it doesn’t necessarily matter where you start. A change in your though patterns will often lead to a change in a physical habit – just like a change in a physical habit can lead to a change in your thought patterns.

Every so often I’ve gotten to a point where I need to lose 5 or 10lbs. What I’ve done for years when this happens is I start by “seeing” myself as looking and feeling fit, being more comfortable in my clothes and feeling healthy. Each time, within a relatively short period, my physical appearance reflects my vision. However those thoughts and images led to different CHOICES, ACTIONS AND ACTIVITIES than the ones added the 5 or 10lbs on to me in the first place.

“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result”. Albert Einstein

As I make a conscious choice to not buy any more potato chips for awhile, I buy more healthy snacks instead. Suddenly, without much effort, my cravings for the “less than good for me” food subsides and I’m craving more veggies and the food combinations that I know are better for my metabolism. As my eating patterns change, I feel more energized and naturally inclined to increase my running back up to 5 to 7 days a week when I’d may have been down to 2 or 3 days a week. Conscious choice and action needs to follow intention (intentions are thoughts) – and often inspired intention leads to our naturally making more beneficial choices without having to put too much “hard effort” into it. And yes, other times it takes a lot of self discipline and commitment to change and to continue making the healthier lifestyle choices.

A change in thoughts can create miraculous changes in our lives (I believe miracles can be everyday occurrences). It can help make certain choices more natural and easy. Please do not delude yourself into thinking that one changed thought without being proceeded by any aligned action, will result in your desired outcome 100% of the time. When it does, it means you already held all the other necessary beliefs and attitudes for it to happen. But it doesn’t always work that way and this is where people can get themselves in trouble. Most people have so many conflicting beliefs and attitudes running rampant in their unconscious minds, that without intimate and honest self reflection, they don’t know which are in conflict with their desired outcomes, let alone the ones they “personally” need to adopt in order to lose weight at the “flip of a thought”.

When it comes to consciously creating a healthy body, actions need to speak just as loud as words!

More on the topic of beliefs, attitudes and magically manifesting miracles in my next post!

Listen to the Language of Your Emotions

2008-07-17T14:11:00.004-04:00

For years this phrase has decorated my computer and only today did the meaning of it finally dawn on me as I reflected on a response I’d made to an e-mail.

Language of Your Emotions

Emotions don’t speak – we do. We feel the energy moving inside us (emotion = energy in motion) and interpret the feeling with words. For example I may feel emotion in my throat and refer to it as a frog in my throat, lump, tightness, constriction, scratchiness….etc. The words we end up choosing in each instance to describe an emotional feeling is no mistake. They are most often a metaphor or a literal reflection of what the emotion itself is trying to reveal. This is the “language of our emotions” that we need to listen to.

In the e-mail today, the person referred to feeling tightness in their throat. My suggestion was to listen to the word he used to describe the sensation. What happens with tight? How does anything flow through something that is tight? What does tight need – perhaps lubrication (softer thoughts) or a loosening (easing up of negative thoughts)? The emotions we feel are often connected to the thoughts we are thinking about the situation – not necessarily the situation itself.

For example, the other day I was feeling frustration as my friend was with another task instead of being ready on time to leave for the Spa. I thought we had agreed to leave at a certain time to avoid having to wait to get in. Thirty five minutes past that time I was feeling antsy! I noticed the emotion of frustration rise as I felt the sensation of a pressure in my chest. Chalking it up to being an inner signal that we’d have to wait if we didn’t hurry up, I’d made it (the emotion) about the situation.

When we do leave, we end up taking the wrong route, so now we were an hour late (pressure contributing to taking the incorrect route). By now my thinking had became so warped that I found myself almost hoping we’d have to wait to get in so that my inner signal would be proven correct. Oh my!!! As I caught that thought, I realized that if we did have to wait, I’d be the one responsible for creating that experience for us. I was the only one adding pressure (my feeling of pressure) to the situation; my friends were both focused on enjoying their conversation throughout the drive. I was cutting myself off from the harmonious energy connection flowing between my friends by thinking “pressure thoughts”, hence the feeling being in my chest and heart area.

Finally, as I realize what I’m doing, I take a deep breath….and I remember how grateful I am to be spending this time with my friends. Even if we did have to wait, we’d be together, enjoying each others company, which was the whole purpose of the outing. Like magic, suddenly, the pressure was released. As my mood shifted, I realized we were on the wrong route, which one we were suppose to be on (now there’s an appropriate metaphor :) ) and helped direct us to it.

At last, we joyfully arrived at Le Nordic Spa. Did we have to wait to get in? Of course not, now that we were all focused on enjoying each others company, that focus expanded into a “pressure less” experience.

The situation wasn’t the cause of the emotion and pressure; it was the thoughts. As I continued holding onto thoughts of pressure, I was adding pressure to the situation. Once I changed my thoughts the pressure released and the situation began to reflect our new collective energy of enjoyment and cheer.

Our thoughts do change our outcomes!

Next time you’re feeling an emotion, as you give it language, notice the words you’re using. Acknowledge either the literal or metaphoric meaning and notice how your thoughts are affecting the situation. Sometimes, it will be about the situation, however more than not, it will be about the thoughts of it and the language you use about how you’re feel will point you into the right direction, helping you to recognize what you can do to turn it around!

Listen, to the language of your emotions!

EGO - Lose It or Strengthen It?

2008-05-07T13:00:00.005-04:00

For the first time today, I saw the term “ego strengthening”, as I was reading an article and something popped inside my mind. There are many schools of thought that encourage people to lose or diminish the ego mind. This idea has never really felt right to me (or maybe my ego’s been fighting me on it). Eckhart Tolle on Oprah’s web cast of “A New Earth” said that he “lost his ego” suggesting that this is a desirable thing to do? I’m not so sure about that. Maybe it is for him, who am I to judge? But I imagine there are people out there now having read or heard that thinking “oh – so I should be trying to lose my ego!”

What’s good for the goose isn’t necessarily good for the gander!

I’ve been playing curiously with this idea a client mentioned to me recently; “What if the opposite is true?” In the moment I’m engaged in a perspective, perhaps holding it as true, what happens when I play with “what if the opposite of this perspective is true?”
So if I hear that I need to ‘take out’ my ego in order to live a more successful and fulfilling life, what if the opposite is true? What if “strengthening my ego” is the key to my living a more successful and fulfilling life? There’s an interesting twist.

I just looked up “ego” on Dictionary.com to find this definition: “the “I” or self of any person; a person as thinking, feeling, and willing, and distinguishing itself from the selves of others and from objects of its thought.”; philosophically; “a) the enduring and conscious element that knows experience. b) Scholasticism. the complete person comprising both body and soul.”

“Why would I want to get rid of that??”

When I accept this definition of “ego”, it makes more sense to me to work on strengthening it. If I have a strong sense of my complete self, both body and soul connected as one, I’m better positioned to create a successful and fulfilling life – by my own definition.

When the ego is weak, then an individual is more or less unconsciously creating their life experiences. We are then more easily influenced by outside sources that aren’t necessarily aligned with our own core values. If your unconscious influence is not aligned with your values, then your desires will be reflective of this (unconscious influence) and that’s when the success of achieving our goals don’t end up equating personal fulfillment.

Here is the 4 step approach that I now realize I have been unconsciously using with my clients for some time:
1. Identify and connect with your core values.
2. Ensure your “wants” are supported with a core value - the “why”.
3. Explore your ego and all of its parts. Get curious about yourself.
4. Strengthen your ego by transforming or letting go of the weaker parts of it, which includes the outer influences that are not aligned with your values and goals, and direct more focus on the parts that are aligned.

The aim is to become consciously aware who the “I” in the self is, which includes the various parts of our ego, and discover how this “I” has been directing our lives as it is. Then we can strengthen the connection between all these aspects of ourselves so they work together more cohesively. With a stronger and aligned sense of self (ego), I can better position my self with the collective of the whole which I am also apart of, and be a more supportive influencer of it.

What would it be like to have large groups of people with strong egos, all working together in a conscious manner for the good of the whole they are one with? What is possible then?

This is what is happening in the world today. As a result of having been under the influence of certain individuals stronger egos over the past decades (politicians, religious figure heads, guru’s), more and more people are now strengthening their own egos by getting in touch with who they really are and what is truly important to them.

Of course, if this can be true, then the opposite can as well. As Tolle feels he’s done, by losing the ego (that has been negatively influenced) one realizes their connection to the whole, recognizing the power that truly is within, empowering themselves to create successful and fulfilling lives.

So it is all good!

© 2008 All Rights Reserved Kim Barnwell

De-Clutter Your Life

2008-04-24T21:26:00.002-04:00

Hey - I'm really excited about a new workshop I'm co-leading with this fantastic Professional Organizer, Angela Irvine We will be connecting the dots between the "cluttered space" and "cluttered mind and emotions". I haven't gotten it on my website yet, so I'm posting it here for now. And as soon as I figure out how to upload an MP3 file, I'll be able to include a piece of our planning that we recorded - so check back again in a week or so!

Conscious Creation Event

Have you ever noticed that when you're feeling imbalanced emotionally, the space around you is usually imbalanced as well? Hard to turn things around with so much chaos around you.
Connect the dots between your emotional and mental clutter and the physical clutter in your environment. Clearing one will instigate re-balance in the other. It doesn't matter where you start - just start! Start Saturday April 26 2008 by joining myself and Professional Organizer Angela Irvine as we join forces to help you De-Clutter Your Life!
De-Clutter You Life
Creating Space for Inspired Living
Conscious Creation and Love Your Space
DATE: April 26th, 2008
TIME: 1:30pm to 5:30pm
LOCATION: MacLaren Center
340 MacLaren St. 2nd Floor
Cost:ONLY $47.00
Register: Call Kim at 613-591-1173 or email
at kimcocreation@sympatico.ca to reserve your spot now!
www.conscious-creation.com www.loveyourspace.com

WOOOWHOOO

2008-04-02T21:10:00.002-04:00

Celebration Time Come On!!!

I just opened a very important letter – it is a letter from CTI congratulating me on passing both my oral and written coaching certification exams. YEAH!!!!! I have earned the privilege of adding the initials, CPCC (Certified Professional Co-Active Coach) next to my name.
I have never been so nervous about opening an envelope! Knowing how I consciously create my outcomes, I was very aware that as I feared not passing an exam that I could attract it, that if I knew I’d pass I would and at the same time, if I thought I didn’t and therefore tried to “THINK” I did – I’d drive myself crazy!!!!
That’s the thing about being aware of creating your reality, when it comes to real life situations, what really matters, practicing what your preach becomes the real test.

As I waited 20 days to receive my results, this is what worked for me:

1. I faced my fears of failure. I acknowledge the reasons why I thought I might not pass. I didn’t make myself wrong for thinking this way, I simply acknowledged the logic supporting the fear.
I gave myself credit where credit was due.

2. I was just as liberal in acknowledging what I had done correctly, as what I thought I hadn’t done incorrectly. The worse thing we do to ourselves is go into “exaggerating thinking” at one end, and we let those thoughts run rampage with our emotions. By allowing each possibility their equal voice, and being logical (factual) about it (best question here to ask yourself is “Is what I’m thinking really true?” then “What else is possible?”) you detach from either possibility.

3. I connected to what I truly knew – that I love coaching and I love inspiring people to be who they really want to be! That if for some reason I needed to redo an exam to gain that credential, I was committed to doing whatever it took and grateful for learning what I’d learn along the way. I released my attachment to having that credential now, knowing it was already mine and that timing would be just that – the illusion of timing.

It’s during times like these (when I’m personally attached to the outcome) that practicing what I know is most challenging; when my faith in me can be challenged. Isn’t that why it’s called faith? Otherwise, how would we ever develop the confidence to really listened and hear, and the faith to follow the next inspiration we are guided to persue?
NEXT!!!

Magical Manifestations

2008-02-13T11:52:00.002-05:00

Thank you Universe!
That is what kept saying today as the universe handed me my desires on a silver platter. Thank you Universe and I gratefully accept!

Over the holidays I received some cash as a Christmas present (thank you) so one day back in January, I set out to buy me gifts.

I like to buy myself the frivolous stuff with gift money – stuff I don’t “need” just “want”. So off I went today to CD Warehouse to buy a season of Charmed on DVD (one of my favorite witchy shows which stopped being aired in my area while in its third season) and a hard to find “Aerial” CD from Kate Bush.

No bargains at CD Warehouse! The Charmed DVDs were going for between $57 and $54.00. I intuitively felt I could get a better deal at Wal-Mart. Then I went over to look at the CD’s for the latest Kate Bush release. I couldn’t find it where the other Kate Bush CD’s were stocked and just as I was about to walk away, the golden-yellow cover caught my eye – the one last copy was on display. Priced at $25.99 …umm maybe Wal-Mart has it too.

No Kate Bush at Wal-Mart; however the Charmed DVDs were priced at $39 and $34. – big difference so I brought two to the check-out.

Oh, I’m to digress for a moment….on my way to Wal-Mart I stopped in at Blockbusters to rent a movie for the weekend. There Charmed was going for $41.00 – I held out. It wasn’t until I was driving home that I remembered thinking as I got into my car leaving the video store; “It would be nice to spend the same amount on the Charmed DVDs as it would cost to rent them - about $20 per season.”

Back to the check-out…..
There were 3 cashiers open and a line of 4-5 people at each. The moment I notice a twitch of arrgggg (not a fan of lines) I flipped my light on and felt the ease of patience fall upon me. The line zoomed through after that.

Now, I’m at the check-out with my Charmed DVDs and some cosmetic removal pads. When the cashier told me the total…well , I felt just like the lady in the Wal-Mart commercial where she runs to the car after paying her bill feeling like she’d just robbed the store. The cashier said “that will be $42.63 please”. What???? I use to be banker – so I’m pretty quick with numbers and there was no way all I bought added up the $42.63! Something within me said – just double check the bill. Sure enough, each of the DVD’s scanned in at $17.98 – a hidden sale!! YEAH!!

Thank YOU Universe.

I then returned to CD warehouse to buy the “hard to find” last copy of the Kate Bush CD.
Thank you Universe – you sure know how to deliver!

Messages of Water Video

2008-01-14T13:08:00.000-05:00

Read the next post on "Amplifying Love" first, then go to this link and watch this video on Dr. Emoto's work.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XWmWWqm1hFs

Amplifying Love and the Rediscovery of Fire

2008-01-14T12:49:00.000-05:00

Someday after we have mastered the winds, the waves, the tides and gravity, we shall harness for God the energies of Love, and then, for the second time in the history of the world, man will have discovered fire. Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

Recently as I was writing a speech about Love, I felt inspired by this quote and set out to gain an understanding of what Mr. de Chardin may have meant when he wrote these words. First I needed to know which definition of “love” he was referring to when he wrote “energies of Love” as there are many contexts in which this common 4 letter words is used.

What is Love?

I searched the online dictionary for the “general” meaning of the word. The first definition included 28 various meanings for the word love, none were general. That wasn’t much help. So then I checked out the online encyclopedia which only served to validate my confusion as I read “The definition of love is the subject of considerable debate, enduring speculation and thoughtful introspection.”

I read the quote again and this time something clicked. In his quote, Mr. de Chardin refers to love as being an “energy”! Now that makes perfect sense. Many conversations with my client supported the concept of love being an energy.

There is an exercise I complete with all my new clients; Core Value Elicitation. By gaining clarity as to what is truly motivating our choices and actions from the core of our being, we glean great insight as to what we need to truly live a fulfilling life. On average, 8 out of 10 clients include “love” as a value. Not surprising – however what is surprising is that I’ve yet to have 2 clients provide me the same personal definition of the word love. Actually, each client who has listed love as one of their values has defined it through the expression of other values. Included in the long list of values used to define love are: compassion, kindness, acceptance, patience, joy, fulfillment, satisfaction, confidence, trust, truth, affection, appreciation…. the list goes on.

As I continued to experience this with clients, I’d come to the conclusion that if all these values individually equate “love” to someone, then the way we experience love is through the expression of such values.

Connecting the Dots

What I’m interpreting Mr. de Chardin’s words “we shall harness for God the energies of Love, and then, for the second time in the history of the world, man will have discovered fire.” to mean is that he foresaw, that at some point in history, enough people in the world would recognize the impact on themselves and the world every time they aligned with the truth at the core of their being (what I refer to as core values). Then as a society we would understand that by choosing love (patience, kindness, generosity, acceptance, forgiveness…) we amplify the energy of love in us and around us. As a result, this understanding would lead to a shift of consciousness that would have a monumental impact on humanity, the significance of which we’ve only experienced once before.

What is possible for our world when a large percentage of the population is amplifying Love by choosing to live according to their personal core values? Here are a few references to explore and consider:
Dr. Emoto’s book “Messages of Water” illustrates the difference between the crystalline structure of water that has been amplified by love and that which has been amplified by fear. The water that is amplified by Love is more appealing to the eye. It is clear, symmetrical and pretty. It is also healthier to consume.
The latest statistics state that our bodies are 60 % water; therefore as we amplify love, that has a brilliant effect on 60% of our physical body.
Candice Pert’s scientific work on proving the impact our emotions have on us at the cellular level also leads to an understanding of how we are positively affected by the amplification of Love.
As M. Gandhi suggests “be the change you want to see in the world and the world you are in will change.”

What might the potential be for the human experience when the energy of love is constantly being amplified through us and throughout our environment?

The story of Jesus is a perfect example of what is possible for humans when we commit to making choices that amplify love. He was able to resurrect his physical body after it had been dead for 3 days! His presence performed miraculous healings and he easily manifested wine and food. History is filled with stories of divine beings who radiated a loving presence performing such miracles.
For those who have read the Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield, the Ninth Insight was all about how the amplification of love through the appreciation of beauty, letting go or having positive thoughts resulted in the physical body becoming invisible to those whose choices amplified fear. At the end of the movie version, they also included that those who had crossed over could be seen again by these people who were amplifying love. Now, I realize the last example is based on a fiction novel and that for some people the “history” of Jesus is also a story…. but what if these stories were more. What if these stories are a glimpse into what is possible when we humans “harness the energies of Love,” and perhaps this is part of what we will experience when “for the second time in the history of the world, man will have discovered fire.”

As more and more of us, make the conscious choice to live our lives according to our values, collectively we amplify the energy of love on this planet. I believe that the time in history Pierre Teilhard de Chardin referred to in his quote this is happening NOW!
We, my fellow man, are on the threshold of rediscovering fire!

Copyright © 2008 by Kim Barnwell – All rights reserved

German New Medicine

2008-01-05T15:37:00.000-05:00

I am very excited about sharing this eye-opening article, written by a colleague of mine on German New Medicine. German New Medicine helps us to uncover the unconscious cause or trigger of disease and illness.

Often this topic of the “Law of Attraction” triggers mixed feelings from people who have experienced a major illness or accident in their life. They often argue that there is no way they could have created it (their illness or the disability they acquired from an accident) for themselves – and I would absolutely agree with them. It pains me when I hear people trying to figure out what they “did” to make “it” happen. We do not intentionally “do” anything to manifest disease in our bodies or to experience an accident that has a major affect on us. Life happens, and as a result, more life happens. At best, we can learn and grow from all of our life experience – and it is in the learning and growing that we become more capable of consciously creating more of what we do want in life.

In her article, Barbara Pierce offers the perspective that disease is a result of trauma associated with unforeseen events that we experience in life. The development of German New Medicine offers a means of understanding the roots of disease and illness so that we can become aware of what we need to address on the mental or emotional levels to heal thoroughly.

Follow this link to read Barb’s enlightening article: Introduction to German New Medicine

Closing Exercise for 2008

2007-12-31T18:23:00.000-05:00

Hi everyone - here is the exercise to complete in the closing of 2007.

In summary, part one is about reviewing the year. This is an opportunity to gain anymore insights or awareness’ possible at this time from the events of 2007. Part two is about releasing, forgiving and expressing gratitude for all of the events that made up 2007.

The exercise may take you from one hour to as much time as you need to complete.
You will need your 2007 journal, diary, day timer or agenda, (anything that will help jog your memory and help you review the year) pen and paper. Set yourself up comfortably creating a sacred environment for yourself. Light some candles, burn some incense and have some tea, wine or favorite beverage.

Part One
Review the events of the year and take some time now to gain whatever more you can from the experiences.
Starting with January of 2007 ask yourself the following questions and work your way forward to now.

What were the key events of 2007.
What did you learn as a result of these experiences?
Who was involved in your life this year and in what capacities?
What and who assisted in your growth this year?
What obstacles have you overcome?
What goals did you accomplish?
What goals did you set and did not yet accomplish? Are you complete with this goal?
Did you stretch beyond your perceived abilities - meaning do things you didn't think you could or would have done in prior years. (Yeah you!!)
How were other people impacted by your contribution to their lives over the past year?
Who are you now at the end of the 2007? Or how are “you” different from the you that was “you” in January of 2007?

If you are still feeling unpleasant emotions regarding the past events or the people who were involved, here are some methods to use in getting to the core issue.

1. Ask yourself what is still triggering you, what does the experience still have to teach you that you may not have yet recognized. See if you can now take a step back and look at the experience objectively, as if it happened to someone else. What might someone else have learnt from the experience? It may help to discuss the situation with someone who wasn’t involved.

2. Close your eyes, center yourself, take a few deep breathes, right from the diaphragm. Picture the person that you still have an emotion towards in your minds eye, or think of them and feel their vibration. Ask them “What other message(s) do you have to offer me?” Then go within and ask if there is a message you have for them. You may or may not feel to communicate this message to them prior to the end of the year. If yes - do so, by voice, in-person or by writing. If no, write it down and then tear it up or burn it.If you did get a message for them, ask yourself how this message could possibly assist you as well. (often the advise we get for others apply to us as well)

3. Close your eyes, center yourself, take a few deep breathes, right from the diaphragm. Go over the experience in your mind. Notice the emotions that are arising within you. Are you being reminded of any other past event? If yes, what are the similarities? Can you recall any events just prior to the one you are exploring? What you are doing here is making a connection to how you attracted the experience to yourself if the first place and possibly you’ll be able to recognizing a pattern you may be attracting. What you learn from the experience now, may assist you in not repeating the pattern again.

4. Write it out. Write out the experience and your emotions. While writing ask yourself questions to lead you to more understanding, such as; what does this emotion tell me about how I really felt? If I knew of another experience that had the same feeling connected with it, what might it be? What is it about the event that reminds me of a past similar event? How would I have interpreted this event without this feeling? Keep asking any questions that come up until no more answers come. If none of these work for, that is fine. It may be the divine time for you to be complete with the experience. Trust that and move on.

Part two
Once you have reviewed the year, you are going to acknowledge and record all that you are grateful for, and all you are ready to release and/or forgive. Include your accomplishments, goals achieved, growth stretches, and obstacles overcome.

Release
Start writing:
I bless and release my experience of these events..............I bless and release or forgive (name of person) Thank you for your active participation in my life.

Also take this time to release any outdated beliefs or attitudes that no longer serve you.I bless and release my past need to (name aspect you are releasing) I am grateful that it has brought me to this point in my life.

Gratitude
Start by writing:
I am grateful for........ (brief summary of event)I am grateful for (name of person) and briefly why.
I am grateful to have had (name the impact of your contribution) impact on (person, people or system you impacted).

Once complete, if you are able to safely do so, burn the papers. If you are unable to do so safely, you can shred them by hand. You have just created space within yourself, having released the 2007 energy and now have room to fill up with your dreams and aspirations for 2008!
May you be the conscious creator of your life in 2008!

Me and My Three Selves

2007-11-30T16:27:00.000-05:00

Winter has arrived, and here the proof! This picture is taked outside my window last week. It truly is a beautiful site!

The December Issue of Tone is out and your's truly has an article in it. For those who don't receive the Tone Magazine, I've posting the article here. Read on.....

Me and My Three Selves

Different teachings and philosophies speak of the various aspects of the self: higher self, lower self, the inner witness or observer, mind, emotion, spirit, unconscious, preconscious, conscious, god self, little self, ego, id, super-ego… the list goes on. As you can see, regardless of which school of thought one follows, there are many dimensions to who we experience as our self.

To consciously create your life, you need to become aware of the various aspects of yourself. All dimensions of you make up the “you” who is the main attractor factor of your creations. While the law of attraction explains that we attract what we focus our attention on, our main attractor factor is actually the “who” we are, who is focusing attention.

Here is what I’ve been noticing about the various dimensions of myself lately.

I’ve become increasingly aware of my observer self who is often intrigued and fascinated with what goes on in my mind. It really helps me detached from the inner dialogue (sometimes drama) that is happening and it notices how the thoughts are affecting me. My observer self notices the difference between my other two selves and likes to direct me to my greater self (a.k.a. higher self, god self, Christ self).

This dimension of me is quite wise (no idea where she gets her stuff), often has enlightening perspectives to share with me and offers me the best advice. This self keeps me in the flow and feeling good! This is the aspect of me, I want creating my reality!

My third self – well, to be frank, leaves much to be desired and often grates on my nerves. It offers the worst advice, pulls me down emotionally, and says the nastiest things about me and others. In the past, it has tried to lift me up by inflating my self perception in ways that have led to humiliating experiences. It tells me how I can’t, won’t and shouldn’t even think of doing anything daring or risky that would be beneficial for my development. This self goes by various names like saboteur, ego, gremlin – I’ve been partial to the term gremlin lately. As I’m writing this, this aspect of me is telling me that I probably sound nuts right now while my greater self is telling me “they know what you’re talking about, keep writing” and I feel it is my observer self who is giving me these words to write.

My three selves: observer self, greater self and gremlin self – then there is me. Me is the one who is experiencing all of my selves (a.k.a. myself and I). I am the one who is at some level giving attention to the part of myself who is expression through me and as me. It is the part choosing, consciously or unconsciously, the “who” that I am, who is attracting to me. So there is me, and my three selves, all of whom are the creators of my daily life.

However you perceive or experience your whole self, as you become increasingly aware of the various aspects of yourself, you can consciously choose who you are at any moment. Having said that, having to consciously choose who to be in every moment is a tall order indeed and is an unrealistic expectation of yourself. Therefore, I offer you this prayer, to help direct all of who you are, who to be, as you consciously create each day.

Through Me (note to selves)

Through me see beauty
Through me see potential
Through me feel healthy
Through me feel joy
Through me experience prosperity
Through me experience freedom
Through me express kindness
Through me express authentically
Through me hear possibilities
Through me hear truth
Through me demonstrate faith
Through me demonstrate respect
Through me serve
Through me inspire
Through me live life
Through me love

Copyright © 2007 by Kim Barnwell – All rights reserved

Published in Tone Magazine December 2007 issue.

Are You Attracting or Repelling Your Thriving Practice?

2007-11-24T11:11:00.000-05:00

I'm going to be the guest host on Thriving Coaches round table on Monday November 26, at 8pm ET (follow the link to register and receive the bridgeline number). I hope you'll join us!
Here is a little article I wrote to introduce the topic for the call:

Are You Attracting or Repelling Your Thriving Practice?

Are you getting in the way of your thriving practice? Has this ever happened to you: you wanted a new client or speaking opportunity, you receive the lead and then next thing you know the deal falls through or the new client cancels or postpones their appointment?

We create our experiences, mostly unconsciously, that is what the law of attraction explains. As our attention is focused on what we want, we attract and when we focus on what we don’t want, we repel - what we want! We are in the constant flux of attracting and repelling through our thoughts, attitudes, beliefs, focus and feelings. The key is in knowing how it is you’re naturally doing both.

Once you’ve communicated with your new lead are you noticing how you’re probably not the best coach for them or how compatible you are? Are you thinking “they won’t be able to afford my fee” or do you assume they can otherwise they won’t have contacted you. Do you try to figure out how to fix their issue or do you automatically think of how inspiring their vision is? The more you start noticing what you think of or focus on automatically, you’ll start connecting the dots to how you are attracting or repelling your thriving practice.
The good news is that thoughts are never carved in stone. When you catch yourself in “repel” mode, you can make a conscious choice to think a more attracting thought, thereby redirecting the outcome. You may not be able to change history, however if you’ve repelled an opportunity or client, by changing your thoughts or redirecting your focus, you will attract new ones – attracting your thriving practice.

Conscious Change and Flow

2007-11-07T16:16:00.000-05:00

When initiating conscious change, there is a balance to be struck between “going with the flow” and “directing the flow”. The universe is constantly receiving and responding to “you”, and what makes up the vibration of “you” includes how you express yourself verbally, mentally, and emotionally as well as your values and beliefs. Once you’ve decide to initiate a change, the flow will be your queue as to how aligned this change is to all of who you are.

When you instigate change that is congruent to the “You” of who you are, you’ll know. It will appear as though the whole universe is conspiring to help you. Everything just falls into place. As you remain open to receiving guidance from your inner wise self, you can direct the flow of your life, feeling yourself along the way.

When you try to force a change that you’re not truly aligned with, it feels like the universe is against you. Any effort feels really hard; synchronicities become rare and you feel like you’ve been striped of your manifesting abilities. This is what going against your own flow feels like, when something about the change you’ve initiated is compromising the core vibration of who you are. It doesn’t mean you have to abort the plan; however it is time to review it. Perhaps there’s a conflict with one of your values or beliefs, or it could also be that the timing isn’t right. You may simply need to slow down and wait for inspired direction.

Another time to lift your oars out of the water and let yourself go with the flow is when you notice yourself following the directive of your negative ego or saboteur. This will also feel like you’re forcing against the current. In those moments as you release your oars, invite your greater self to take over and the universe to show you what your next step in redirecting you to your flow is. Then breathe deeply, listen and notice. Remain open to receiving guidance, unattached to what it looks like or how it comes. When it comes, you’ll know – it’ll just feel right.

Enjoy the Magic!

Change and Trees

2007-11-07T16:10:00.000-05:00

Have you ever noticed how peacefully a tree allows its leaves to fall from it every autumn?
You don't see the branches of the tree reaching out trying to force their leaves to stay. No, the tree gracefully allows the leaves to fall, courageously baring itself to the harsh winter elements. Then in the spring, the trees faith in nature is met with the blossoming of new buds - the natural order of life.

We are always changing - change is a constant in life. With every breath we inhale and exhale we are changing the oxygen in our body. Each time we move our eyes we change what we see and every time we change our mind, we change our focus. How often does that happen in a day? There are numerous other ways we change every day without even thinking about it.

Yet we resist change - not all change perhaps, however have you ever found yourself kicking and screaming in response to the news of yet another change that is about to occur? I know I have.

Just the other day, I walked over to the grocery store to buy my favorite cereal for breakfast and THEY WERE OUT!!! Every other Nature's Path Organic cereal was available in abundance except for my favorite one (Optimum Power Blueberry Flax Soy)!

As I stood there dazed and confused by the coincidence that they were only out of MY cereal, I became aware (and embarrassed) at how I was letting this affect me. Here I was, having gone through sooooo many more challenging changes in my life of 42 years and I was being thrown off balance because I was going to have to choose a different cereal. Get a grip Kim!

Can you relate to my story?

How is it that change is the most natural thing we do as humans, yet conscious change can be so difficult? Either the status quo has to become too painful, annoying or boring to endure any longer or the grocery store runs out of your favorite cereal so you "have to" try a new one.

Change is life experienced. Unconscious change results in life experiences that we may or may not like - recurring patterns. Conscious change results in creating the life experience we want! Forced change such as the fires recently experienced in Southern California shakes up the status quo and always leads to new - like it or not. Once we start recovering from the shock and trauma of such an event, we need to think about moving forward. The people who have lost their homes will spend time reflecting on their lives, gaining clarity on what is truly important to them. Some people will aim to recreate what they've lost. Others will let go of their past, either intending a new start or allowing themselves to be guided day by day. While for others, this will have been the disguised blessing they'll always remember as being the catalyst that lead to a whole new life adventure. Everyone will move forward in the best way that they can.

As for the vast forested area that was affected by the fire, it'll use this mass cleansing to its advantage, re-balancing that which needed re-balancing for its eco-system, in the way nature that knows best.

Attachment and Relationships

2007-10-06T21:25:00.000-04:00

Saturday afternoon – wet outside.
Not feeling particularly focused to do any serious writing, so I thought I’d do some real blogging.
I notice that I’ve been more concerned about writing something worth reading rather that just writing what is going on or what I’m thinking about. I seem to be attached to what I put out there. So even though my horoscope says it isn’t the best time for me to write, I’m going to anyway. I feel like a rebel!!

Attachment and Relationships

What does being attached mean?
When it comes to relationships, when someone is attached it usually means they are in a relationship. Right?

Well, what if someone is in a relationship but not attached to it? Does that mean they aren’t attached and therefore available to pursue another relationship?

One of the secrets to consciously creating your life is non-attachment. Not in the sense that you’re not suppose to be in an intimate relationship, but meaning we are to release our attachments to how things happen and specifically who that relationship is with. We are to focus on our desired state and outcome and release attachment to how it happens.
Ideally.
Easier said than done when our attachment to having someone to love in your life is as strong as our attraction to the person who is attached to someone else.

I have two friends (and have actually heard of many others in this same scenario – so I could be taking about anyone) both in love people who are attached to someone else and both attached to having that person be in their lives, even though the one they love is already attached.

Now in both cases, the already attached person does reciprocate the feeling to the one who loves them and is non-attached to being attached to their current partners. Actually, I’m pretty sure if you were ask them if they were attached to their current partners they’d say no, even though they are still with them because in truth they are not attached to being with them.

However, they are attached to something they are getting in return from being in their relationship – both relationships. From their primary relationship they are attached to continuing to have a basic need met that is being provided by this relationship. This is clear in both cases and I bet in most similar cases. In their second relationship they are attached to having someone they are very attracted to be part of their life.

Can you be attached to two people at once, and be non-attached to the longevity of either relationship? Apparently so.

This is one of the current realities of our “new age” movement towards living in “non-attachment”. As people become increasingly non-attached with the relationships in their lives, they will eventually be comfortable not being attached to anyone. Then, maybe then, they can really get to know the one relationship they are truly attached to – the one with themselves!

Coaches - Law of Attraction Mentors

2007-08-17T15:42:00.000-04:00

Here is an article I recently had published in the CTI online newsletter. Enjoy !

What do “Coaching” and the “Law of Attraction” have in common?

For starters, the law of attraction explains how it is that we can create the lives we desire, while coaches support their clients in creating the life they desire.

Secondly, they’ve both gained recognition in main stream over the past 10 years and even more so in the past couple of years, yet both have existed for much longer.

I believe that coaching and the law of attraction go hand in hand, that the expanding coaching profession is due to the growing demand for support and guidance from people who wish to consciously create their lives – as the law of attraction explains we can all do! It’s no mistake that coaching has flourished over the past few years, to accommodate the demand that is the result of society’s growing awareness of its ability to create a better life and world.

God bless “The Secret” and most specifically Rhonda Byrnes, whose sincerest intention was to spread joy throughout the world by sharing what she’s learnt about the law of attraction. Rhonda’s source of inspiration was a book that was actually written back in 1910 by Wallace D. Wattles, “The Science of Getting Rich” (it definitely worked for her). Mr. Wallace’s book certainly wasn’t the only resource available that provided instruction on how someone can create their reality. For over a century the New Thought movement, which includes Science of Mind and Unity, has included this information in their literature and practices. You can also find similar teachings in most of the religious texts including the Bible. The premise that within us lays the power to create our reality is not a new age idea!

Let’s take a closer look at the origins of coaching.

Back in the 1500’s, the term “coach” referred to a vehicle that took people from where they were to where they wanted to be (does that sounds familiar?). In the 1800’s this same definition was adopted by the athletic field. Coaches became the vehicle that supported athletes and sports teams in reaching their goals, getting them to where they want to be from where they were. Then in the mid 1980 this term was again adopted by business men who used the term to describe their leadership development models. Finally, in the early 1990’s, Thomas Leonard and Laura Whitworth converted the vehicle of coaching to being one that helps people get from where they were to where they wanted to be, in any and all areas of their personal and professional lives.

Many of the skills and techniques used by those who teach the attraction principle are the same ones used by both life and sports coaches. Imagining one’s desired outcome, visually and sensually; the use of incantations and affirmations, positive self talk, identifying and taking actions that lead to the results we want, aligning our values to our goals. Basketball coaches train their players to “see” that ball falling into the net! As a Life Coach, I ask my clients to see themselves achieving their desired outcomes. The law of attraction explains that what we can see in our minds, we can experience in the physical. As we see it, we ignite the movement of the forces and energy required to have what we’re envisioning to take form.

Those who are most successful at achieving their goals - including the athletes who win the trophies – at some level are aware of the attraction principles. They may not call it that, and there really is no need to call it anything, they simply know what works. Regardless of whether they know how it works, they believe and trust.
As coaches, we naturally help our clients become aware of how the law of attraction is influencing their lives. The more we align with the essence of how the universal principle of attraction affects our lives, regardless of what we call “it”, we become a stronger attraction force for our clients, supporting them in creating what ever they desire for themselves and for their world – our world!

Integrity is really hard to judge. Or is it?

2007-06-23T15:50:00.000-04:00

I recently wrote and delivered a speech for my Toastmasters club - my 10th speech which meant I’d receive my Competent Communicator badge (Yeah!!)– and since integrity has been my topic of contemplation recently, I decided to speak about it. This isn’t the speech I delivered, it is a more clear articulation of the message.

I’ve been challenged at being able to discern if someone is being integral at times. Then, the more I thought about it, I realized it actually isn’t that difficult. Just because I can understand someone’s justification or rationalization, doesn’t mean a wrong becomes a right. I will express compassion and forgiveness for myself and others, and I will personally challenge and encourage, myself and others to strive for better.

On a recent flight back from England, the movie shown was "Freedom Writers" – which I highly recommend it you haven’t seen it yet – a great example of the need for people to choose and act with integrity.

The movie is set in 1994, at a high school in Long Beach, California. The student body is quite diverse, from varying cultures, who each stick to “their own”. Each culture has its own gang, and the gangs are at war. These kids are packing guns and each student has at least one friend who's died in a gang war. Students and teachers alike fear for their lives every day, never knowing when a gang fight will break out.

The story focuses on an English class, with a brand new teacher, whose mission is to have a life changing impact on the lives of her students. She strives to unite the students by helping them recognize that they have much more in common than they have differences. At the beginning of the movie, the students hate her and feel she could never understand them. By the end they are united and rally to keep her as their teacher.

Part of the movie shares the experience of a student, Eva, who witnesses a murder. The boy who pulls the trigger is from her gang. Since Eva has been taught by her parents to “protect your own”, she believes it is her responsibility to lie in court and pin the murder on a boy from another gang. Her teacher, who becomes affectionately known as Mrs. G., has such an impact on her, that by the end of the movie when it comes time to tell truth, the whole truth – Eva does. Even though she still believes in protecting her own, her definition of “her own” has expanded and it is no longer ok to do what is wrong, in order to meet this value. She knows she is risking her own life, however telling the truth takes precedence.

I was inspired by her commitment to do the right thing in spite of the potential repercussions. It made me think of how many of us (I include myself and strive to be better) choose to do the wrong thing for much lesser reasons. Some people will do what they know at some level is wrong to meet their need or desire for power, attention, dominance, the respect of others, to gain popularity, for money, for fame, to be accepted by others or out of pure laziness (when doing the right thing takes more effort) – not for reasons that are at all life threatening.

Conscious creation is not just about being able to create the reality you want. Conscious creation is also about making conscious choices - the right choice for the right reason, in alignment to your values and for what you know morally as right.
It’s about demonstrating respect; for the environment, for yourself, your purpose, your passion and your brilliance! By acting in a manner that demonstrates respect for all, including yourself, you automatically attract respect from others. When you attract respect from others in this way, you never need to do the unmoral to achieve your goals because the Universe takes care of “it’s own”!

Mirror Mirror on the Wall

2007-06-13T14:39:00.000-04:00

Who's the most integral of all?

I don’t believe everything I hear just because someone wrote a book about it. I try it on, have my own experience and believe the results of my own experience, which often times will be a bit different than what the “guru” wrote.

A good example of this is the notion that everything around us is a mirror of us, or that all of our outer reality is a reflection of our inner world.
I believe this because I’ve experienced it.
What I don’t believe as some of the “gurus” suggest, is that it's always an identical mirror. I know that isn’t exactly true.

It has been my experience that my inner world is creating my outer experience, however much of it is in code. Why? Because I love and thrive on being able to unravel a mystery! So even the style of how I create my reality is a reflection of my inner passion of solving a mystery.

This makes my inner life very exciting as I decipher the symbolism in my personal world. Yet at times I would just like to see an apple being reflected as an apple if you know what I mean! I also value clarity, so there are times the outer experience is an exact reflection of my inner world. Sometimes it’s so confusing. I often have to ask myself, “Is this example a clear reflection that I’m having a hard time accepting, or is it a mystery symbolically linked to what is really going on inside?”. Ummm...... That was a question I had today as I was connecting the dots to a particular pattern in my life (remember – I’m the Pattern Buster!)

I have attracted many teachers who have knowingly been earning money using other people’s work without their permission, and often the work has a copy right protection (ha). I have even seen someone use someone else’s work and add their own label and/or signature to it.

I like being able to trust my mentors and trust that I am safe to following their example. Each time I’ve become aware of this, I’ve had to face acknowledging something that I didn’t want to acknowledge, that it is a mistake to trust anyone.

Over the years, I’ve had the opportunity to work with many of the people I’ve witnessed doing this. Each time it has been a short union, or one that never really took off, and each time I wondered what it was about ‘me”, that attracted not being able to work with these people. I felt rejected. However I always had to admit to myself that each time I was aware that I didn’t feel completely in my integrity with all of their choice of actions, nor with my inability to make the appropriate choice for myself after I did call them on it. Instead I would want to continue to try and understand why they do what they do and challenge myself to focus on the aspects I admired about them so that I would experience more of that part of them. It didn’t work. I had not recognized my own reflection yet.

Today, once again I took a stand for what I feel is right. We were jointly working on a project and now our partnership to do so has potentially come to an end, and I feel really good about it all – I finally see the reflections.

I’m not feeling rejected because for once I didn’t reject myself and my own truth. I’m also trusting myself, therefore I am demonstrating that I can trust someone – ME!

I am a bright, intelligent woman with a high level integrity. It is time I trust myself, stop rejecting my own truth and honor who I am. It is up to me to be the example I want to see in my community, in my world.

My desire for anyone who feels they need to go against what they know is right in order to get what they want, is that you recognize and have faith in your own inner brilliance! Believe in your ability to “Have it all” (quote from my friend Su Thomas ) in a way that honors all.

Remembering to "ASK"

2007-06-01T14:30:00.000-04:00

Manifesting away from the norm – Part One

Daniel and I have recently returned from our trip to Ireland and England. Traveling is a fun and interesting time to practice conscious creation, which is the theme of these next few posts.

We had relatively loose plans for the trip – 6 of the 12 evening our accommodations for were booked. The rest we decided we’d find the perfect places once we arrived. And we did! All except for the first night, we ended up staying in the first place we inquired about.
We’d spent the first two days of our trip in Dublin, at the Marble Hall – the best B&B in Dublin owned by Shelagh Conway. Then we rented a car to visit more of Ireland.

The first couple of days driving were tense. It was our first experience driving in Ireland, on the left side of the road, from the right side of the car, all opposite to what we are use to in Canada. And their roads were very narrow. Many times we were amazed (and grateful) at how a transport truck could squeeze past us coming from the opposite direction. The shoulders are minimal to none and next to usually trimmed with stone walls. I felt very “snug” in the passenger seat coming very close to an intimate encounter with the “walls” many times.
So besides being mindful of not veering into the right lane as we are use to, Daniel had to put up with me squirming every time I thought I was about to kiss a wall.

The first day we arrived at Tara Hill just before it closed for the day. I had intended to spend a few hours taking in the energy of the “spiritual” site so we decided to stay in town that evening and return the next morning for a good visit. We asked a local resident for a bed and breakfast recommendation. He pointed to one down the road. We walked over to it, knocked on the door and even thought we saw a person through the window, no one answered. I decided to ring them on my cell phone (that I intuited would be a worthwhile purchase for our visit). The woman who answered, let us know she was full for the evening and directed us to her neighbor (where Daniel had thought was the first place we’d been directed to, turned out he was intuiting the B&B energy there – way to go Daniel). We walked over, and it turned out the woman was going to be leaving very early in the morning to go to the airport for a day trip, therefore wasn’t accepting guests that night.

This was very strange for me – to have two “no’s”. Not the natural flow I’m use to. I realized that my tension was affecting my flow and I needed to shift that fast in order to attract good accommodations for the evening.

I shook off the tension, did some conscious breathing and focused on deciding what I wanted for accommodations. I saw a comfortable bedroom, lots of room and a reasonable rate. As we drove into the next town, where we’d been directed to find another B&B, we drove past a hotel. In that moment I added to my list that we’d be a close walking distance to a good place to have dinner and drinks that evening.

We didn’t find the first place we’d been directed to, where the previous lady assured us we’d be quite comfortable, but we did find the other location which she couldn’t vouch for as she’d never been in it. It was more like a house hotel, with a breakfast room and vacancies! Yeah!! It was reasonably price and right next door to the hotel I’d seen earlier, which had a great restaurant where we ate that evening.

Conscious creation wise, this is what happened that day:
As we flowed through the day with minimal intention and expectation, we were creating unconsciously and falling into the “story” of the day; the tension from the roads, the challenge in driving, arriving at Tara Hill right when it was closing, the two first B&B’s not having any vacancies.
Once we realized we didn’t need to continue in this flow, it all shifted. We became clear as to what we wanted and flowed towards that. Had we tried harder (trying hard is not necessary) to find the first place we’d been directed to, we wouldn’t have been very close to a restaurant.
We ended up getting exactly what we wanted – once we remembered to ASK!

Natural Magic

2007-04-04T22:24:00.000-04:00

Years ago I came up with this motto for myself:

When I live my life for me
Being the best me I can be
Magic happens naturally

Originally the last line was “The rest happens naturally” and just now as I’m writing I asked myself “exactly what do I mean by the rest?”
It means living a magical life! A life in which I naturally attract all I want to be, do and have by simply being me!

One way I’ve come to understand the law of attraction, or what I refer to as conscious creation, is through noticing that whoever I am being in the moment magnetically pulls to me, that which is like me (like attracts like). When I’m being way too serious, I tend to attract other people who are also being way too serious. When I’m acting like a child (the immature kind), I attract that quality from others. And when I’m being playful, I attract the playful side from the people I’m with. The coolest awareness has been noticing that as I change, the people I've attracted these mirrored qualities from, are the same people I was attracting the previous qualities from!

My boyfriend is a perfect example (I’ve been experimenting with this…. sshhh!). The other day I was feeling frustrated and noticed myself picking on these little things he was doing that were annoying me. The more I picked, the more annoyed I felt. As I became ever so painfully aware of this dance we were in, I took a moment to remind myself of all the qualities I love in him and like magic, he started demonstrating them instead.
I’ve manifested dinner, flowers, my choice of movie and other favors using this method with him.

I’ve experimented with the cashier at Loblaws as well. At the check-out the other day, I was about to be served by a familiar cashier who looked like her face might crack if she were to smile. I could feel the frown lines on my own forehead as I judged her for not looking happier! I decided we both needed cheering up! That thought turned my frown into a smile and inner giggle.
“Hellooo” I sang as she started scanning my items, which she reciprocated with a half-hearted glance and smile. As I started humming along to the song that was playing in the background, I recalled the many times I’d exchanged pleasantries with her. As I walked away she cheerfully wished me a good day. Somewhere between “swipe the card the other way” and “here’s your receipt” her mood had definitely shifted. Her whole face had softened and whatever had been weighing on her before was now gone.

If this is the impact we have on each other as individuals, by simply choosing to be happy, can you imagine the potential in your life and the lives of all the people you touch in a day?
Over the next month, I invite you to play with this. Start by noticing what you are attracting or how you are being (whichever is easiest) while in the presence of one or more other people. When the feeling isn’t optimal, decide how you would rather feel and behave, then do whatever you need to do to get yourself there. It has to be authentic, so keep going until you really shift yourself first. Don’t say a word about what you are doing or make any suggestions to the others to change, simply change your self and notice what happens.

I would absolutely love to hear feedback from your experiments! (kimcocreation@sympatico.ca)

My motto is an adaptation of Gandhi’s words “Be the change you want to see in the world”. When we are being the best aspects of our whole selves, we naturally attract that same flavor of experience in life. Now that’s what I call natural magic!

When Inspiration Falls Flat - What's up with that?

2007-03-14T20:33:00.000-04:00

Have you ever had a “great idea” and then had it land flat? You’ve been left wondering why the inspiration came in the first place if the execution of it wasn’t going to be what you consider a success. What is up with that?

Over the past few years I’ve been inspired with so many great workshop ideas. I spent days creating the workshops, committed to running them, advertised them yet failed to attract the number of participants I wanted, sometimes attracting no one! This was very confusing, as it seems that I received the inspirations just to have myself waste my time creating a workshop that sometimes never happened. (Can you feel the energy of this frustration? And what do you think it attracts? You got it, equal circumstances.)

Well, recently I was participating in a teleclass where we were to connect and receive information from our higher/greater/god selves for each other, when as it often happens someone voiced this same issue for themselves. (I love how that happens.) So this post is the information I received from my greater self to our shared confusing frustration.

When we receive the first insight, we need to do exactly what we are guided to do. But what usually happens, in my case anyways, is that at some point my head gets involved trying to figure out exactly how it will all fit together. That’s when I start worrying about what people would want, what they’ll think and so on. Well this is what my greater self had to say about this pattern:

Less is best and "only needed" data is what comes through (spirit). Every question presents a new possible direction and then every answer, opinion or suggestion will lead to a new outcome - each different at the least slightly. This is neither good nor bad, it is simply how it works and it helps if we can understand this.

When an insight comes in to create a class, start creating it continuing with the "natural flow". Discern the "feeling" when the mind is scanning (this is a pattern/habit) (I interpret this to mean when the mind starts trying to figure out the details and come up with alternatives). When this feeling comes, breathe deep, go to your core/center and ask for guidance from within. Notice the different "feeling" then. From there, unless that feeling is associated with the thoughts being thought, drop it. Each project or idea will have a unique vibration which you will feel. Pay attention to the feeling associated with the idea when you get that first hit. Any "less good" feeling will manifest a less desired outcome. Any better or higher feeling will manifest a higher outcome. It (the vibration) will always change as you remain "open" to options and suggestions - therefore direct it "UP".

Whenever you downplay an idea due to fear – fear of failure, trying something new, rejections, whatever fear, then the downplaying redirects the current plan to a new outcome, an outcome that is of the same vibration the idea now holds. This isn’t a punishment for having a negative or fear based thought, it is simply how the law of vibration works.

It’s like adding a new ingredient to a recipe. Let’s say you wanted a banana milk shake. Then you decided to add chocolate, you now have a chocolate banana milk shake. Can you add chocolate and make a banana only milk shake? No. Once the chocolate is added, it is now chocolate banana and that is that. You could add loads more milk and bananas so that you can barely taste the chocolate, however it will still be there, is now part of the recipe or outcome – a chocolate banana milk shake is made instead of the original intent of making a banana milk shake.

This is how energy works, and everything about us is energetic in nature. We can not “taste” our own energy to determine when it has changed however we can feel it, sense it, hear it and sometimes even see it. When we feel our energy shift, we need to know that we are changing the ingredients therefore our outcome will now be slightly or greatly different depending on how our energy has shifted. This is neither good or bad it simply is.

Create magically -

Powerful Intentions

2007-02-23T12:35:00.000-05:00

Well, my intention was to write on this blog more often, a reality I have yet to consciously create ;)

In December I flew into Toronto for a coach training weekend with CTI (The Coaches Training Institute). I took an early morning flight since the program only started at 10:00am; however this meant I needed timing and flow to be on my side. I had planned to take the shuttle from the airport to the hotel, which left the airport every 20 minutes. With the flight arriving at 8:10am I figured I'd board the 8:25 shuttle, giving us an hour to get to the hotel with the early morning traffic so that I’d arrive by 9:30. That would give me enough time to check into my hotel room early (I intended that it would be ready by then) and arrive in time for registration which started at 9:45am.

The flight arrived on time, first yeah! Now I needed to pick up my luggage and catch the 8:25 shuttle. I waited, watching other passengers from my flight pick up their luggage and leave the building. 8:20, still no sign of it. I speak to the attendant close by who confirms that the entire luggage from my flight is now on the carousel. Mine must be there or it’s been left on the plane going to Calgary. I choose not believe her. I walk over to the other attendant she directed me to in order to confirm all the luggage is off the plane. He looked at his watch noting that it had only been 20 minutes since the plane had landed; chances are they are still unloading the luggage. I walked over and told the lady attendant what he said. She stood her ground and repeated that she believed all the luggage was now on the carousel. I smiled and told her that I hoped the other guy was right.

It was now about 8:29 - the shuttle would have left 4 minutes ago. I knew I could take the 8:45 and would trust that the traffic would be fluid enough for us to make it to hotel in record time.
Suddenly, the luggage appears!! Yeah!!! I smile at attendant, gleefully clapping my hands.

It is about 8:32 when I purchase my ticket for the shuttle. The ticket lady directs me to the door marked B stating the bus is there right now! I quickly walk over to the bus driver who greets me with "We've been waiting for you, how come you’re late?" as he takes my luggage. Late??? Waiting for me?? How would he even have known I was coming? I hadn't told any of the people who had helped me that I needed to catch that shuttle.

Now I'm on the bus, in traffic, with no idea of what average morning traffic is like in Toronto. I still see myself arriving at 9:30.I'm wishing I had been able to carry water on the flight because I was thirsty and didn't know if I'd have time to purchase water before the start of the workshop.The bus arrives at the hotel. I give the driver a tip, walk up to the reception desk in the hotel, look up at the clock and it is (drum roll please) exactly 9:30! Yeah!

I ask if my room is ready - it is. Yeah!

The receptionist invites me to join a female traveler program to receive extra privileges. I accept. I now have the choice of receiving a calling card or gift basket. I gratefully accept the calling card. One concern I had earlier was about calling home and having to pay the hotel’s long distant rates. That concern was now gone – thank you! Then, she hands me a bottle of water – Yeah again!!I bring my bags up to my room, and then back down to the training room by - you guessed it - promptly at 9:45am just buzzing from the morning manifestations!!!Now let’s review to recognize what was really working for me; how I consciously created the flow of the day?

I didn't allow myself to buy into other people's beliefs that were in conflict with my own intentions.

I accepted what the first attendant told me as being what she believed to be true and held my intention of arriving on time, knowing that she could be wrong. I didn't tell her I hoped she was wrong, I told her I had hoped the other guy was right, therefore I was kept my focus on the result I wanted.

I intended to arrive on time without any conflicting beliefs about the amount of time it "should" take based on the level of traffic. This is a good example of when "ignorance is bliss". I had no idea of what good timing was, only a desire to arrive at a certain time. I also didn't feel any attachment to arriving at 9:30 because that made me plenty early. If I had intended on arriving at 9:55, that would have been so close to the start time that as I noticed the traffic along the way I probably would have felt anxious about the possibility of being late. With the intent of arriving 30 minutes early there was no fear of being late, therefore the intention was pure and without attachment.

By this time I'm emanating gratitude and in awe of how everything is flowing so beautifully, that of course I attract the water and calling card. Being in an energy that is radiating appreciation, I attract more of the items that I'd appreciate attracting.As I'm waiting for the workshop to start, I sit in awe of my morning experience, knowing with my whole being that I am in the perfect place. I felt so open and expectant of the miracles and learning that would transpire over the next 3 days. Well - was I in for a surprise! I never in a million years would have intuited what I was about to experience during that weekend. Nor could I have anticipated the transformations that would occur during my continued training weekends over the months that followed.

And the miracle creations continue!!!

How is it we create the "bad" events???

2006-12-01T14:14:00.000-05:00

Recently I was participating in a discussion that demonstated how challenging it is to believe we create our reality, when what is happening in our reality is challenging. Here was my perspective in the regards to this conversation.

I've come to recognize that the question of "do we create our reality?" leans to also being interpreted as "are we responsible for everything that happens in our life?" - which is a whole different question. I think we create it - and most of what we create is done at an unconscious level and when we are creating unconsciously we are not responsible for our creation. The gift comes when we do become conscious of how we are getting the experiences we get - we then have the ability to respond to our lives in a conscious way and make changes.
Does this mean that we are then 100% responsible for what happens? Absolutely not - because the unconscious mind is still at play. But we can have more control over what happens. And if we do what it takes to understand the workings of the unconscious mind, we can also shift it so that we can even more so consciously create our lives.

The unconscious includes all the thoughts and memories that the conscious mind doesn't include. All we've ever witnessed, read, thought, believed, learnt all of it gets stored there. When I say that we create from there as well - that will also mean that we are unaware of what unconscious thoughts lead to the creation. These thoughts are energetic vibration - that is being proven scientifically. Read Molecules of Emotion from Candace Pert.

Who we are encompasses our conscious selves, unconscious selves, and our greater selves. Our greater (there are other words for this) selves includes the vibrations of all we've ever been (past lives included for people who believe that), who we will ever be as well as all possibilities of who we can be now. We hear from so many sources that our outer reality is a mirror of our inner reality. When I contemplate this, and I'm looking at the pine trees outside my window, and the first snow that is creating a nice blanket on their branches, I wonder how my inner reality is manifesting all of this physical/environmental experience. In my unconscious and greater selves there are many memories and vibrations that include what I am seeing outside me.

When we were looking for a house, my boyfriend and I had a list of what we wanted. What we did not have on the list was the scenery we ended up with. However, I did have pictures in my mind of when I lived with such scenery around me and felt warmth and joy with the memory. In my unconscious mind was stored the thoughts of knowing I am happiest in this type of environment. So one day I'm looking at the MLS listings and see this house with a picture of this back yard and I can feel excitement bubble. We go to see it and the rest is history. How we create from a conscious place is how we gain experiential knowing that we can create our reality.

Now - this is what I think happens when the other things happen that we are unable to link to any conscious thought. Since we are a culmination of all the vibrations mentioned above, in this world of everything being energy vibrating at varying frequencies, it means we have many possible attractor factors going on at every given moment. It is the vibrations that attract each other. The vibrations take on the form of thoughts, memories and result in experience and physical manifestations. So when something unexplainable from the position of our conscious selves happens, it is because we've attracted a vibration from one of the other levels or parts of ourselves to us. So if someone experiences a car accident and knows there was no conscious connection to the event, that is where I suggest that it was manifested from an unconscious/greater self level which may or may not ever be known at the conscious level.

I personally have a hard time completely accepting the possibility that I signed up for a contract before coming - that everything was already planned for my life experience. For me it leads to so many questions about free will and such, yet it does align with the premise of the past present and future all being now. However maybe if my interpretation of what that means changes I may come to accept it..... I remain open. I say this, because if it is true then that is part of the vibrations that encompasses our greater selves - which is included in how we create our experiences. The "we" in the "we create" equals all of our conscious, unconscious and greater selves all together as one.

Secrets

2006-11-24T11:46:00.000-05:00

****note - this entry are the notes to a talk I presented at Unity Church of Ottawa in September of this year - enjoy!!!

I love Secrets.....

I love Secrets! I love being in on the "in". When someone shares a secret with me, I feel so honored and trusted. I love Secrets!

Summary of talk.......
Today's talk is about the Secret to an Abundance life. Actually, the title mentioned "Unity's Secret", however it doesn't belong to any one faith or movement - it is Universal.

I'll be revealing a few Secrets to you today, each leading to the next just as I unveiled them for myself. When someone tells me a secret I can't repeat it with out their permission, however if I've figured it out for myself - which I love doing - sometimes IÃ’m hard to surprise - then I can tell whomever I please, as appropriate of course. And these Secrets are very appropriate to share because we all deserve to live an Abundant life!

First secret - the movie.........

The first secret is presented in a movie called The Secret. Has anyone here seen it?
Of course, when I heard of this movie, I had to see it - because I love secrets.

In the movie The Secret, the secret is about how we can have everything we want in life.
Do you want to know the secret to having everything you want?
The secret in The Secret is the Law of Attraction.

The Law of Attraction is the explanation of how it is we come to experience everything we experience in life. That our thoughts become form, and that whatever we focus on we draw to us. Whatever we pay most attention to, we experience more of in our life.
For example, if you are in a shopping mall about to get into the cashier line and you focus on all the long lines, you'll only see all the long lines and could miss the cashier opening up as you are walking by.

My experience discovering the Law of Attraction......

I've been studying the "law of attraction" since before I even knew such a law existed.
Back in the lat90's I started recognizing how my thoughts were manifesting in life, that when I would ask for an event to happen in certain way it would. I really became fascinated by this new ability I had apparently acquired where sometimes what I wanted would mysteriously "just happen". I named my company Conscious Creation because I had realized I could create my reality and I wanted to help other's to do the same. Then I learned about the Law of Attraction which nicely explained my experiences.

Being mindful of how our thoughts manifest........

Now the Law of Attraction - otherwise known as "The Secret" - really emphasizes that we need to be mindful of thoughts, because they do become our reality. Now the good news is that we have so many thoughts and can only be aware of so much at one time, therefore, our thoughts don't all manifest instantaneously, thank goodness. This is demonstrated in the movie as a fellow looks at a postcard with an elephant on it, then turns to see an elephant appear in his living room!
So not all thoughts manifest like that, however my boyfriend and I had an experience that made us aware of how thoughts do manifest.

The day after we had seen the Secret, we were at a pet store, picking up food for our cat Patches. While we were there we were looking at all the cute furry creatures. We were both looking at the rabbits and commenting on how cute they were. I had a picture in my mind of being at home, holding an petting a soft furry rabbit.
Next day, I go to the basement of the apartment we were living in to do laundry. I open the door and straight ahead is a little furry thing. As I'm wondering, "is that a stuffed animal or is it real???...... it turns and looks at me, and then started hopping towards me! It was a rabbit!!
Right away I think "oh my god! What have we done?!? We've manifested a pet bunny! So I go upstairs and get Daniel, tell him I have a surprise... he comes down, sees the bunny and it starts playing with him, chasing his ankles - it was so cute.

As it turns out, both of us had imagined how cute it would be to have a bunny as a pet. And I did end up bringing it upstairs in our apartment for safety, until I ran into the owner during my next trip down to continue the laundry.

How to manage our thoughts.......

Our thoughts do become experiences in our reality, so how do we manage our thoughts, so that only the ones we want to experience in our life happen?
That's a heavy question. Can you imagine having to monitor all your thoughts??? Yikes!
There has got to be a Secret to that one.......

Discovery of Prayer connection during summer.......

During the summer I participated in one of Unity's small group classes titled "Creating a Life of Prayer". At the same time I also decided to finally start reading a book a friend had gifted me "Handle with Prayer" by Alan Cohen "Harnessing the Power of Prayer to Make Your Dreams Come Through".
As I was both reading the book and participating in the class, it dawns on me that Affirmative Prayer, which is what we do here at Unity, is the conscious application of the Law of Attraction. I had not yet connected the two until that moment.

There are two key aspects of Prayer that had me believing this.
1. That prayer is our communication to god or our source.
2. That we have faith that a god or source exists, that it is always at the receiving end of our prayer.

Prayer/Law of attraction Connection.....

Can you even imagine engaging in prayer, if you didn't believe there was some greater power at the receiving end of the prayer? No, we won't even bother. But we know there is, a power that is Omni present, in everything, everywhere, in the air we breathe, in every cell of our bodies, all around us all the time. There is nowhere it is not. It is always present, hearing every word and every thought. God never turns off!!
If this is true, as I believe it is, then all my thoughts are actually prayer.

Now, let's look at the Law of Attraction for a moment. It supports that there is a force, the responds to our thoughts and attention. It is always working, whether someone knows about it or not, or whether we are aware of it in the moment or not. It just is. It is the explanation how it is we experience that which we experience, so it too is active everywhere, at all times, through all!
This explanation of how we create in our lives, sounds a lot like how god operates through prayer, doesn't it?

Prayer is the conscious application of the Law of Attraction.

Example of Law of Attraction and god

As I was preparing for this talk Mother Teresa came to my mind. She was a woman who demonstrated every day how she always attracted what she needed as she traveled being of service wherever she could. She tells of this experience that I will share:

"One day in Calcutta a man came with a prescription and said, 'My only child is dying and this medicine can be brought only from outside of India.' Just at that time, while we were still talking, a man came with a basket of medicine. Right on the top of that basket, there was this medicine. If it had been inside, I would not have seen it. If he had come before, or if he had come afterward, I could not have seen it. But just at the time, out of millions and millions of children in the world, God in his tenderness was concerned with this little child of the slums of Calcutta enough to send, just at that time, that amount of medicine to save that child. I praise the tenderness and the love of God, because every little one, in a poor family or a rich family, is a child of God, created by the Creator of all things."

And this happens to us too. I'm sure you have experiences of when you needed something and suddenly, like magic it appears. Orsynchroncityy or coincident suddenly happens to make something come together for you.

This is such a beautiful demonstration of the real Secret to an abundant life, which I will share with you next.

Sometimes it works - sometimes not......

So how is it that sometimes what we ask for happens and sometimes it doesn't. And how is it that some people seem like they are really good at manifesting what they want and need while and others aren't so good at it, even though they ask?

What is the real Secret to creating an abundant life? Faith and Belief.......

As I asked myself this question, I thought about the people of the past that the movie referred to as having known the Secret; Abraham Lincoln, Albert Einstein, Edison.......
What did all these people have in common? I suspected that they did know something other that the Law of Attraction, the real Secret to an abundant life.

As I contemplated this I asked "what's been different in my life between the times when everything is flowing smoothly, everything has come together the way I want and the times when I've experienced disappointments, illness, set backs or what I may have viewed as a failure at the time.

What is it that has been missing during this time?

And a specific experience came to me, of when I was working at the Bank and I was really frustrated with my job. I had started off the new year by missing the first week of work because I had laryngitis - for the first time in my life. I also had an emotional breakdown at the same time. It was a rough week.

As I recalled this experience I realized that what wasn't present in the moment was my belief in me. I had also forgotten my faith all together.
Can you think of time when you suddenly lost your belief in yourself, in who you are at the core of your being, an expression of God/Source that can create whatsoever you desire in life just like every other person in the universe can.
Have you ever been in that state of mind when you've just forgotten the divine spark of light that you are?
And then suddenly, something shifts. It, whatever "it" is, becomes so painful - and you start regaining something..... maybe faith.
You suddenly start thinking there may be a way out or that something has got to change.

Your faith once again becomes evident.

Then you get an idea, of maybe something you can do or say. A belief in your ability to change or make a difference resurfaces and you start to feel stronger, alive, capable.
Have you ever experienced that? When you regain your belief in yourself, as someone who is capable of handling whatever it is life has thrown your way?

So now your faith has been restored as well as your belief in yourself to make a difference and everything starts flowing in the direction you want. It may still be a climb - and you know you can do it! Because you know you have the power inside to do it Ã– what ever "it" is!
The truth is Ã– you always have
And that is the real secret to an abundant life.
Faith that a power greater that us exists along and within us at all times just waiting for it's cue to attract whatever you want or need.
Belief that this power is in you, and that you with it can be, do and have anything your imagination can produce for you.
Believe in your dream! Your ability to be the one to bring them to fruition and the faith that the creative force, source, God power, is in you, present at all times, working through you to make your dreams come through!

That was the main difference in the men that were portrayed in the movie the Secret;
Beethoven, Alexander Graham Bell, Buddha, Joseph Campbell, Andrew Carnegie, Winston Churchill, Robert Collier, Thomas Edison, Albert Einstein, Ralph Waldo Emerson, Henry Ford, Victor Hugo, Carl Jung, Martin Luther King, Isaac Newton, Plato, W. Clement Stone, Hermes Trisegistus.
They all believed in what they were doing, in themselves and had a strong faith in a Greater power within and all around - God......

Summing it up.....

Whenever life isn't flowing the way you'd like, remind yourself to Believe in YOU. Have Faith in the creative power within and all around you! Pray or think affirmatively for all you want to be, do and have. Open up to receive inspired directions from your source within and have faith that because there is a law of attraction, you will attract all that you desire. An abundant life is ours to live, for we live in an abundant universe, supported by universal laws that respond to our every thought and by an Omni Presence, Source, God.

Do We Create Our Reality?

2006-10-01T16:43:00.000-04:00

Do we really.... really create our reality?

Have you ever approached a person who is experiencing a life threatening disease and attempted to "enlighten" them of the fact that they not only created their current state of health, but that can also create their miraculous healing - all they need to do is believe they can.

Telling someone they are responsible for their disease, or the happening of an unfortunate event, especially if they are not yet aware of the universal laws of creation, is an insensitive thing to do regardless of the "messengers" intention. Some people may tell you they just don't believe you, while other's may take it to heart and experience painful feelings of guilt, shame, fear and hopelessness. And then when they "try" every holistic health modality - accupressure, Reiki, visualization, affirmations, NLP, Meditation, Yoga, homoeopathy and so on - and continue to be ill or attract bad luck, they have to deal with the feelings of failure for not being "enlighten enough" to either heal or create better circumstances for themselves.
And thankfully, sometimes this piece of information inspires a person to commerce the inner journey to healing and congruence.

Last year I met an inspiring lady who had cancer in one of her lungs, as well as internal toxic poisoning from silicon breasts implants that had leaked throughout her body. This amazing, courageous lady, did everything and anything holistic as a means of managing and dealing with her health circumstance.

At her memorial service I looked through her accreditation binder which was overflowing with numerous certificates representing all of the health related studying she had completed over the years. She was a Master Practitioner and Trainer of Neuro Linguistic Programming, Reiki Practitioner, Integrated Therapy Practitioner, Time Line Therapy, Hypnosis, homoeopathy, so much more as well as a Registered Nurse!

There was no way this courageous woman consciously created her disease. And many times I wondered whether her knowledge and recognition that somehow she had created her illness hindered more than helped her. During our many visits together, her frustration and disappointment in herself for not healing faster was evident. This can be expected in anyone's case, however her disappointment and frustration was often directed at herself. She was very hard on herself feeling that with all she knew, she should be able to heal herself.

It seemed to me that she had become disillusioned by all of her knowledge and this resulted in her not being able to really connect to the core of what was going on within her.

So back to my original question, do we really create our reality? Yes.

Are we doing so consciously? For most people No!

Can we learn to consciously create our lives - absolutely!

Everything we need to consciously create our reality is available to us, is within us and is part of us - the first step is to become aware of that fact.

There are numerous books written to inform us of the universal laws of creation and most of them provide exercises to help strengthen our manifestation skills. However, simply reading the information and practicing the exercise may or may not result in you being able to consciously create your life.
Learning to consciously create your life requires more conscious effort and discipline than simply following the instructions of visualization or affirmation techniques. You need to develop the consciousness that results in becoming a conscious creator. This involves forming empowering beliefs, aligning with your core values and maintaining positive, healthy attitudes including a healthy level of humility.

Becoming a conscious creator starts with a journey into yourself. By acknowledging that your outer experiences and circumstances are the result of your inner world, you will discover your participation in the creation of your circumstances. Then you can do something to change it. You need to be willing to delve within, to discover the connection between the creation of the outer and the experience of the inner, otherwise you risk becoming disillusioned by your ability to make some things happen, while feeling completely baffled by the other events that seem to "just happen". The mind is a very power tool - all of our thoughts create - including the ones we try to suppress or ignore.

Do what it takes to really get to know yourself. All of you. The parts you love and the aspects you'd rather hate or would rather pretend aren't there. Accept them all as is - that is the place to start. Then get into the visualization, affirmations, goal setting, intention setting and so forth. But first find out where you are now, only then can you begin the journey and find the path to where you want to be.

Is this the time for you to create a more balanced, fulfilling life for yourself?

2006-09-29T08:39:00.000-04:00

We all have the ability to create our lives, to be at conscious cause of the effects of our life. Until you open yourself up to this truth, implement the mental and emotional disciplines, your experience of life is an effect impersonal causes.

My purpose in creating this blog is to share how I am continuing to evolve as a conscious creator in my life - in hopes of providing tools and inspiration for however reads this to open up to doing so as well.

We exist in an abundant universe.

If your life is not ideal - it doesn't HAVE TO BE THAT WAY!
You can BE, Do and HAVE ANYTHING your heart desires!

Hugs and love
Kim